throw away account cause i don’t want my roommate to see this
since i was a teenager i've always slept naked. i always get too hot at night and its just generally way more comfortable for me to sleep that way. whenever i leave my room i'm always dressed, or at the very least have shorts or something on if i'm going to/from the shower. my roommate knows this and up to this point has had no problem with it and we always knock on each others doors anyway to be polite.
the issue started when he brought over his girlfriend to stay a couple nights. we all get along pretty well and have all hung out a few times before, but this was the first time she had come over and spent the night. we had all gone out drinking and got home pretty late so once we all walked in we just went straight to sleep. i, of course, went to bed with my usual routine of getting naked and hopping in bed. well, sometime during the night my roommate's girlfriend needed to use the bathroom, but she didn't know which room it was. my room and the bathroom are right next to each other and she opened my door by mistake. i have a vague memory of her opening my door, but i was half asleep and when she closed it i went right back to sleep. the next morning i woke up and my roommate and his girlfriend were upset with me because when she walked in she saw everything and she was mad i would sleep naked when a guest was over in the first place. they both said i need to start wearing clothes to sleep since my roommate's girlfriend is gonna probably be sleeping over more often and it makes her uncomfortable. my argument was that i'm in my own private space away from them and that while i understand it was a mistake, it's still her fault that she walked in on me sleeping.
its been a few days and my roommate still won't let it go. i still sleep naked, and now once on purpose he's walked in on me sleeping just to see if i was naked or not. i don't really care about him seeing me naked cause we've seen each other naked before, but this is getting really out of hand. i don't think i should have to wear clothes to sleep just because it makes his girlfriend uncomfortable even though i'm in my own private room.
tl;dr my roommate's girlfriend walked in on me sleeping naked in my own room and now they both want me to start wearing clothes to sleep
edit: to everyone saying i should lock my door or add a lock, i would really like to. unfortunately the place we're staying at doesn't want us to change the door handles or anything so i can't do that. however i am currently looking into ways to stop my door from opening that isn't like a barricade or that drills into the door/wall
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No nudity in your room. Got it.
So they're not having sex when she comes over, right? Maybe you should start walking in on them to check.
Also, how exactly did she manage to see that you were completely naked? How hard was she looking into the darkened room that clearly wasn't the room she wanted? Did she ever apologise for the invasion of your privacy?
NTA
OP needs to flip the switch to “I feel violated and unsafe in my own home” or
“Your girlfriend violated my privacy and I am thinking of getting the police involved” or
“if your girlfriend will be upset about how I live in my own house, she should stop coming over”
Editing cos 10 awards 😻😻
Not only the gf. The room mate is now hoping to see op naked.
yes, yes, because why is he now entering without knocking
That's the super weird part.
They secretly want a threesome and are deflecting
Or the roommate is awakening something in himself that he didn't acknowledge before.
He's worried OP has a big penis and that that is what his GF is focused on.
That’s my guess. OP is packing and the roommate’s gf saw and was in awe. If any reasonable person walked in by mistake, they’d apologize; they wouldn’t dwell on it or play victim. OP, keep being naked. #TeamSleepNaked
"you saw him totally naked, asleep? I hope this doesn't awaken something in me..."
"I have to see what she saw, and why shes so horn-i mean upset about it"
Roommate's GF reported back how big OP is, now the roommate wants to see for himself. 😉
OP said they’ve seen each other naked before tho 👀
Maybe GF mentioned OP had a morning wood, and he got curious? Was worried he might be smaller than him.
My best answer for OP would be to get a lock for your door, so they stop invading your privacy tbh
Do they know OP is naked under their clothes?! The audacity!
On top of that, this is the PERFECT opportunity to lay some ground rules and establish that if she starts being there all the time, bills start to get split 3 ways instead of 2. As long as there is already drama, OP might as well tackle the next problem coming soon to his household.
This. If you need to change your lifestyle because she is there so often, it’s time for her to start paying rent.
THIS!!!! I cannot believe they have the audacity to believe her opinion should even be considered here. SHE DOES NOT PAY RENT!!!!
And "Once, I can understand mistaking my room with the toilets, but it seems your gf wants to reproduce the experience. Did she see something she likes?"
You made a really good point. OP is harassed because, gasp, he dares sleep naked in his own room.
OP, you might want to put night lights and boards directing the gf to the toilets so that she stops using that excuse to see you in all your glory ;-)
Also, if she is planning on coming over more than a few days at a time then she needs to be on the lease or OP could be in violation of the lease and risk eviction.
Finally, who TF walks into someone else’s room and gets mad that they are doing ANYTHING. That is your private space. By their logic, it should be fine for you to open their door during sex,leave it open, and walk off. Fair is fair MFers.
Wasn't there a whole lawsuit with some doordash lady walking into some guy's home and claiming she was SA and violated by seeing the guy naked in his own home?
How did that work out? Oh yeah, not well
https://www.kctv5.com/2025/11/18/doordash-driver-charged-after-recording-posting-video-nude-customer-police-say/
The real question here is why DoorDash also cancelled the customer's account when they did nothing wrong?
Perhaps they have a policy that you're not supposed to order while intoxicated?? Which would be bizarre because (1) drunk munchies = big bucks and (2) discouraging drunk folks from picking up their own food is clearly the right thing to do
I wonder if they had a conversation about the girlfriend spending more time at the apartment. It certainly seems to inconvenience OP.
or „I am gonna check next time if you guys are naked while sleeping“
I like this answer the most.
This 💯. Agreed, how long/hard was she staring? It should have been easy to tell your room wasn't the bathroom. If anything you should have told them you felt violated at her staring so long to see you bare.
Really long and hard i reckon.
I mean in fairness if op kicked off the blankets while asleep, it doesn’t take any extra time to see the rest of op.
Still doesn’t make the only acceptable reaction anything other than ‘whoops I’m so sorry’
In the darkened room? I find it pretty unlikely that there was a stage light providing a full frontal - but I’d actually be more concerned about how fragile they both seem to be about it. Has she literally never used the restroom in your place? No judgement but it surprises me that if they had hung out a few times and such, and she couldn’t remember where the bathroom was? Didn’t know? Something doesn’t quite add up here.
There’s really only two reasons for someone else’s date to linger and peer further into the obviously-not-a-bathroom:
They prob want him out, and will begin finding any reason as to why he is a poor roommate
This was my first thought. They're trying to move her in and move OP out. But I do like the suggestion of reminding them that if they're having sex in the roommates room, they're just as in the wrong as they think OP is.
Someone being uncomfortable with their roommate's gf staying multiple nights and having sex while they're home is far more valid than someone being uncomfortable with their roommate sleeping naked, but maybe that's just me 🤷🏻♀️
That would be a good reason for the beginning of harassment. I am appalled that the roommate decided to enter OP's room to check on him. WHO does that? And the gf did not apologize for her mistake, and had enough light and time to watch OP's private parts?
That couple sounds really creepy oO
I'll preface this with, dude can sleep. However he wants with his door closed.
At night, in white walled rooms with Blinds drawn I can see almost as well as daylight. I've got really light blue eyes and for whatever reason have excessively good night vision. A lot of people with northern European ancestry can. But mine is to the point I've painted my walls the darkest blue I could find them and cover every indicator LED I safely can. Because they'll disrupt my sleep. I'm awake right now because I had to check the baby-cam and can't fall back to sleep. It's not hard for me to believe someone who gets too hot in their sleep was visibly uncomfortable to see. But... As I said, dude can sleep how he wants. She needs to remember which door she can go in.
Op might sleep with a light on. There might be a street light right outside the window. She might have only seen the broad outlines of op and not actually seen any details, but been aware that he was naked from the fact that all the bits she saw were the same colour as the rest of his skin. Like, she may well be more upset about the fact of the nudity than about any specific details she saw, and you don’t need to see too many details to be able to say ‘pjs: yes or no’.
Yeah, I would say something along the lines of “How many times did she come to check if I was naked and how close did she have to get to see anything in the dark? That sounds more like she was into me, dude, and not you, if she feels the need to have an ogle at other people. Maybe you need to have a conversation.”
This is exactly what I thought. OP can't sleep naked in his own bedroom, but they can do whatever they want in his roommate's bedroom. Or maybe they have sex dressed up 🤣🤣 some people are so entitled. My guess is the girlfriend missed the bathroom on purpose, liked what she saw and now can't take OP out of her mind 🤔😉
I can't upvoter this comment hard enough.
Wait, do you guys shower in denim cutoffs? I just want to make sure I'm following the new house dress code correctly
I'm really sorry but your roommate purposefully opening the door on you while you sleep TO SEE IF YOU ARE NAKED is lowkey sexual harassement. His girlfriend has no business whatsoever dictating how you sleep, in your own goddamn room. Also I'm really sorry but they can't just announce "well she's technically gonna live here with us so you better dress up in three layers for the night" - that needs a discussion, that needs sitting down and asking "are you okay with this?" you're not being indecent so NTA all the way
yeah if my housmate had done that to me there would be hell to pay. it’s such a breach of boundaries
Yah for real, i'm slapping somebody over that lol
If she’s gonna live there then she can pay rent too! And this is absolutely harassment. There are ways to lock/block your door without changing anything permanently. I’ve seen alarm door stoppers for hotel rooms so I’m sure there are options for OP
Yup, definitely worth "accidentally" asking the landlord about how many times can guests stay over
A rule of thumb would be 4 nights a week, which would make it your primary address
Stick a simple wedge under the door from the inside, if the door opens inwards, but no one has the right to dictate how you behave in the privacy of your own room unless that behaviour impacts others. Sleeping does not impact anyone else unless your snoring is loud enough to be heard outwith your room. Anything else? Not their business.
I wouldn't be blocking my door. The next time she opened my door in the middle of the night I'd be calling the police and she wouldn't be welcome back. Y'all know what y'all are doing.
OP should walk in on them in the roommates room, and then point out their hypocrisy of nudity.
This. Tell your roommate that if he opens your door in the middle of the night again you're telling the police/landlord/his parents/whoever. And get a camera or something that looks like a camera in your room pointing at your door where he can't miss it.
no discussion is needed imo, I think OP needs to send roommate a message in writing basically saying “if you don’t stop entering my room knowing I am naked in there I will report you to the police for harassment”
That would be the start of me being naked everywhere. We would see who breaks first.
Yup. OP is in his appartment, the gf is not.
There's nothing low-key about that sexual harassment. Also, if nudity in the apartment behind closed doors is banned showers are going to be tough. So is sexy time with his girlfriend.
Get a new, non-psycho, and preferably normal roommate.
and then they should do the same "well she's technically gonna live here with us so you two better dress up in three layers for the night", and no sex, and hands on the cover at all time
I think it's time for OP to walk in on the 2 of them when they're having sex, and then very sternly say
"you said we weren't allowed to be naked in our own rooms, and yet here you two are all naked and stuff. Let's get into this right now, because if you get to be naked then so should I"
Thats not lowkey sexual harassment, it is simply sexual harassment.
There’s nothing ‘low key’ about it. If a man did that to a woman it would be stalking.
High key
It feels like disrespecting OP in a whole different level. Why the F would someone open the the door just to see OP naked... That's literally Sexual harassment.
Yeh that's super creepy. I lived with friends for 10+ years of my life, and I'm pretty certain I/we saw each other in states of undress at various times over the years. But you go 'oh, oops, sorry', quickly leave and be more careful in the future?? It's not that big of a deal.
And how often are they naked behind your roommate’s door? Would they appreciate a late night check? NTA
OP should insist on a zero nakedness policy for the entire dwelling. “If I can’t be naked in my bed, neither can you”
That makes showers inconvenient. Random spot checks announced by an air horn blast and high powered flashlight should be sufficient! 🤣
Never nudes
I was eagerly awaiting this reply. “There are literally dozens of us”
Well, that’s just bizarre. 🤯
This. How often do they hook up? By their logic, not allowed, because there's a roommate and she's just a guest.
NTA
And the girlfriend should have since learnt where the bathroom is, right? So she shouldn't have any further reason to be entering OP's room uninvited.
Walk in on them while they’re having sex and then tell them they can’t be naked in his bedroom. See how they like being told what they can and can’t do in his room
"Hey, is this the bathroom?"
LMAO this
„It makes me wildly uncomfortable that you two are naked with me here, I don’t want you to be naked in the apartment. Thanks, byyye!“
Hahahhaha this is how petty I’d be lol
I was waiting for this!!! Say you were so sleepy you forgot which door was yours! But they might be so prudish that they put something on after sex to go to sleep.
I’m so petty that I would get someone to spend the night with me and have them return the favor. But the bottom line is-it’s none of their business what you do in your private space.
Edited to correct error
I love how the implication here is that she is gonna keep seeing you naked. Like girl how many times are you gonna “accidentally” open this person’s bedroom door before you learn where the bathroom is? Does your roommate know you shower naked too? 🤭
Edit* because I'm a forgetful bitch: NTA. Not even close. Holy shit.
And as if she is sharing a bed with the roommate...being completely clothed and chaste at all times???
Be so for real, yall. Out of all of these people, sleeping naked is the least "uncomfortable" thing going on.
NTA
This sounded like a penthouse letter up until paragraph 5.....
One week from today - "I sleep over at my boyfriends place and I keep getting the door to my boyfriend and his roommates room mixed up in the dark. I'm such a ditz. We all got wasted one night and I think I fucked the wrong guy. AITA?"
🤣 She just fell on it. It wasn't her fault!
His insecurities are showinggg
Maybe the girlfriend is a never nude.
I’d be more concerned about roommate saying gf will be staying over more frequently. Will she be paying rent? Utilities?
Edit: NTA That should be a one time mistake. She now knows where the bathroom is.
And to piggyback off that question. what does the lease say about guests? some leases limit it without prior approval.
In my country (Italy) it's literally illegal to limit that. Hosting people at your place (even if rented) is a protected right codified into our constitution! :)
"It is the expression of the duty of solidarity"
P.S.: It's not literally mentioned in the constitution, but Courts have interpreted both Article 2 and Article 14 of the constitution to mean that the landlord can't prevent you from hosting people at your place (there are some rules to follow, but yeah)
In the US it is legal if stipulated in the lease.
Heh, of course it's the US :p
In the US, anybody who stays for 30 consecutive days and receives mail is considered a tenant. If your actual tenant stops paying rent, or otherwise violates the lease, it can be very difficult to evict these de facto tenants when you don't know their names. As a result, many landlords build a restriction into their leases limiting overnight guests to 14 days per month.
I think it depends what you mean "hosting".
Its almost impossible for a landlord to ban you from hosting a short-term guest in most states, but it is legal for landlords to set limits on how much\how long someone can be a long-term guest.
A landlord has the right to vet those who will occupy their unit, and if long-term "guests" are allowed it could allow "guests" that otherwise would not be approved (for example, a failed background check)
In a case like OPs where essentially the girlfriend is moving in long-term, they likely are not doing so with the approval of their landlord and could very well be doing so in violation of the lease. Not all landlords care to enforce that kind of clause though unless there's a problem.
So the roommate and his girlfriend are obviously sleeping together, which means they are both getting naked in the apartment, and are spending a prolonged period of time staying naked. What hypocrites
Exactly. OP should demand that they should also be dressed always, even when they're doing it. And walk in one night to check if they're wearing clothes or not. Tit for tat.
NTA, they are. You’re in your own room, a private space for you.
Can you switch out the doorknob for your room to one that has a lock on it?
The fact that your roomie came into your room PURPOSELY - while you were sleeping - to check if you were naked or not, is CREEPY AF. And totally inappropriate. Idk man that’s just such weird and gross behavior.
It feels very violating for them to come check if you’re naked or not.
You sleeping in a hulk costume, or naked - is quite literally, none of anyone’s business, let alone their business.
“Why are you so preoccupied about me being naked that you actively try to see me in the altogether?”
I’m confused. You’re the one who was seen naked by their mistake. They’re supposed to apologise you aren’t they?
NTA tell them no sleeping naked together in his room too
This is not an unusual thing. You’re in your own bedroom which is your private space. Whats next? You have to wear a bathing suit while you shower because she might accidentally walk in on you? NTA this is ridiculous of them.
NTA, but also she knows which room is yours now, why would it be a problem for her from here on out in any way?
What if she sleep walks into his room and they both sleep sex… idk man. She’s embarrassed and making him the bad guy instead of admitting she’s at fault.
NTA. I get that nudity and shared housing don’t mix, but you’re not walking around with your bits hanging out. You were literally sleeping. If anything, she should apologize for walking in on you. I wouldn’t be comfortable having her around anymore. What if she just decides to check your room every night she stays over to see whether or not you’re wearing clothes?
Roommate is already checking on Op.
Exactly! Whats stopping the girlfriend from deciding to join the pajama police? Not much if she has the audacity to sleep over once and immediately demand OP change how they act in their own room alone at night because she forgot where the bathroom was.
Get a lock for your door if you can.
I find it weird that they will now enter your bedroom while you're sleeping to check if you're naked.
NTA. A guest doesn't get to dictate how you conduct yourself in your own home. If she doesn't like it, maybe your housemate needs to be staying over her place instead.
With that edit in place, here's an idea.
There was a post similar to where OP couldn't lock the door and she sleeps topless cuz she gets super hot in her mom's small NYC apt. So she convinced Mom to get a door block/door stopper/door wedge so that the cat doesn't get in her room. It worked and stopped her creepy mom's bf from peeping and doing anymore more creepy stuff.
Get a door block/stopper/wedge OP
Also, since they can't lock their bedroom door either, just give that same energy back.
Barge right in when you suspect they're naked, because apparently that's not allowed in your household anymore.
See how they like them apples.
NTA. Your room, wear what you want. Tell your roommate rather than demanding to control how you sleep, he teaches his guests where the damn restroom is.
NTA. Coming from a guy who also sleeps naked. I think roomie might just be a little self conscious if he’s making it such a big deal about it… keep sleeping naked it’s your room.. your privacy. Also.. if you used reverse logic, if they EVER have sex in their bedroom they’ll be naked and what if the off chance you walked in their room during that!? Is that not very uncomfortable? Tell them they’re never allowed to have sex at your guys’ place 🤷🏼♂️.
If you want to be respectful just speak to them and say something along the lines of; “I’ve slept like this for years, I can’t sleep properly if I don’t sleep like this, I’m in my own private space, I do not want to offend you guys so I want to let you know this is important to me and it’s also important to me that you guys feel comfortable.“
*side note..
now that she’s staying over more often she’ll know which door is the bathroom door and nobody should be walking into your room unannounced.*
I’d tell them if we’re dictating terms then they’re NEVER allowed to have sex in his room since it would make you deeply uncomfortable to know they’re doing that! with you right next door while they’re naked no less!!!!!
20 bucks says they’ll have a list of reasons how that’s totally different and not the same thing.
Ps there’s portable locks that most people use as extra security when traveling for like hotel doors and stuff. Totally none invasive and basically a door jamb. Lemme try and find a link
Masturbate really loudly to assert dominance. NTA
NTA
Put a sign outside your room- "Naked person sleeping. Do not enter"
Remind them that you're always naked under your clothes anyway, so naked in a bedroom shouldn't be a problem.
NTA
NTA. A rubber door stop will work to keep anyone from coming in.
Completely unacceptable for them to think they can dictate anything you do in your private room, never mind then trespassing to check
NTA. It's your bedroom. What if you were, say, changing or self pleasuring or something? It's not your fault she made a mistake and if they can't see that then that's their problem. If it bothers him so much maybe your roommate should show her where the bathroom is, but he didn't.
I call bs. She went into your room on purpose. Tell them she knows what door is your room and not to enter. I will never sleep either clothes on.
NTA, the girlfriend finds you attractive, the roommate knows and they both have decided its your fault. It is obviously not. A normal reaction to this is profuse apologies from her for walking in on you, if she cant handle the mere thought of you being naked in your own home, shes into you. This is not good news. Id invest in a lock for your roommate randomly peeping in on you, it is absolutely crossing a line.
It sounds like they both want a piece. The dude walking into his room to see if he's naked is wild. id do the helicopter with my junk or wave at him with it. like get out of room homie!
NTA you have your own room. It’s weirder to me that they feel that you need to wear clothes because she will be staying over more. If she uses the right door it won’t affect her at all
If they don’t want you to get naked in your own bedroom, then they shouldn’t get naked in theirs either!
100% THIS! If OP can't be naked, neither can they! And he should walk in on them like they seem to think is okay to do to him.
Why doesn’t your roommate stay at her place if its a problem?
NTA but with the not being able to change door nobs you can get a travel door lock like this. (https://www.walmart.com/ip/Portable-Door-Lock-Home-Security-Travel-Door-Locker-Latch-Traveling-Extra-Locks-Lockdown-Additional-Safety-Privacy-Hotel-Home-College-Apartment-Red/3715379918)
NTA it's your room, you pay rent. You don't run around the place naked. I'd be upset at them for invading your personal space. Why dont you invest in a cheap sliding lock for your bedroom door to keep them out?
NTA and if you're still looking for a solution, a $2 rubber door stop kicked under the door when you're inside is cheap and effective
NTA it's meant to be your private space, they get no say in how much you have covering your body in there.
A sensible person would recognise that they learned a valuable lesson about which door leads to the bathroom and which one they should never open without permission again and be done with it.
Nta, it’s your space that you pay for. If it makes the gf uncomfortable she can not go in your room, or they can go to her place. If you were doing that all around the apt I’d say YTA, but you’re not.
Might I recommend a plastic door stop.
Tell them you'll stop sleeping naked but they can't have sex in the apartment. NTA
NTA. sounds like your roommate is a little insecure about her comparing your sizes so he's probably got a lil shrimp in his pants🤏
also are they never naked while you're there? are they not naked when they have sex or showering?
NTA Give your roommate a roll of tape and a paper sign that says "Bathroom". Roomie or his gf can tape the sign to the bathroom door when she visits. Problem solved. Although frankly, I doubt she'll make that mistake again.
Or you could negotiate with them. "I think I should be able to do what I want in the privacy of my room, but clearly the 2 of you disagree. I will agree to wear shorts or PJs to bed when gf is here if you 2 agree to do the same. When gf is here you both wear pjs in the bedroom at all times. And I'll be entering your room without warning to check, just like you've done to me. Fair is fair!"
Tell them to go fuck themselves
NTA. Put a lock on the door, end of problem.
Nta.
What should have happened is she should have apologised profusely, said it wouldn't happen again and asked if you were still ok with her coming over.
NTA. Put a sign on the outside bathroom door labeling bathroom. They are in the wrong, you would think after the first mistake, they would learn not to do it again.
NTA.
People are suggesting locking your door, but I grew up learning that’s dangerous if suddenly a fire occurs 🤷♀️
NTA, it was a one-time mistake, primarily by the two of them. One that they will never do again, so the problem is already solved.
They got shocked and overreacted and switched immediately from nice roommates to controlling. They can't control what you do behind closed doors. They need to get over it, or gtfo.
What's next? You can't jerk off because they might walk in? They just need to get over the 'shock'.
NTA - the fact a guest would want to dictate what you wore in your room is insane. The only logic i can appl yis 'im embarassed i made the mistake of walking in on you, so I'm blame-shifting'.
NTA
They've got quite the gall to be annoyed at you after SHE went into your room.
Also, maybe get one of those rubber door stoppers if you can't have locks?
NTA.. Ignore them... You need to reflect everything back at them and request the girlfriend doesn't come over anymore. Hey presto.. problem gone.. don't forget to go into his bedroom to check she isn't there. This is guaranteed not to solve the issue but you should get some satisfaction out of it .
NTA. Tell his girlfriend to stay out of your room and kick rocks
nta prudes
NTA whatsoever. How were you supposed to know she’d come into your room?
Nta. But maybe just put a lock on ur door. Avoid the issue. Or a sign on ur door
NTA… but why don’t you have a lock on your door?
NTA. Lock your door. Problem solved.
NTA. cant u lock ur door or smth? it’s also literally her fault for walking in wtf??? u are in ur own room afterall.
NTA, it’s your room and nudity isn’t really a big deal.
NTA.
I’m the same way. I’ve slept naked for years, and as long as I’m in my own private room, that’s my business. You didn’t leave your room naked, you didn’t make a show of it, and you weren’t doing anything inappropriate. Someone else opened a door they shouldn’t have opened. That’s on them.
The bigger problem here is your roommate deliberately walking in on you afterward to “check.” That’s way more inappropriate than someone accidentally seeing something once. You’re allowed privacy in your own room, and you don’t need to change how you sleep to accommodate a guest who made a mistake.
If anything needs to change, it’s boundaries and respect, not your sleep habits.
Get one of those cheap wedgie doorstop thingys, and use it at night so no one can open your door. It’s your business what you wear to sleep in — in your own room FFS, and no one else’s. They are being silly.
Roommate is sexually harassing you. Tell him that he knows the terms of lease and that you aren't able to lock your door and he needs to stop. Ask him to please respect your personal space and to stop sexually harassing you. You do not wish to live in a hostile environment and that you've never had a problem respecting each other's private quarters until another person entered the situation. If he still feels like it bothers him that you sleep in your own closed room naked, you can absolutely make a set of roommate rules and that you will not feel comfortable having two unmarried people sharing his bedroom alone especially since you both pay equal amounts of rent and that in your new roommate contract you will have to come up with a reasonable overnight guest payment plan that will be for each night there and also not sharing the same room unmarried. Then you email this to him and to your landlord.
NTA, Your roommate and his girl are blowing this out of proportion. You can't control how they behave though, but you can protect your space and privacy by putting a lock on your door. Honestly, I'm surprised there isn't one already. I'd change the knob out to a lock that needs a key. Hell, I'd probably get a dead bolt too. You can also put a sign on the bathroom so she opens the correct door next time.
NTA.
Roommate or not, your bedroom is your own private space. It would be different if you were walking naked around the common areas, but given you said you always dress before leaving your room, that's not an issue.
Neither your roommate or their guest (gf or not she's his guest in this situation), should be dictating what you wear to sleep in your room. I understand the initial error, but now that she knows which room is yours, she shouldn't be entering it for any reason, and neither should your roommate. If you want to guarantee privacy, you could put a lock on the door, and/or get one of those wedge doorstops to slide underneath the door as a further block to unwanted visitors.
Also, it's definitely an invasion of privacy to have your roommate effectively walking in on you to check how you sleep. That's just creepy and wrong.
NOT! Tell her if she is attracted to you, just say that. There is no need to police what you do in your room. Am I to assume that they have sex with their clothes on? Because aht! aht! Nakedness is against the rules! I am upset that he came into your room to check to see if you were naked. Are they your parents?
Tell them it makes you uncomfortable that there's girl cooties everywhere in the clubhouse. That's how juvenile they are being!
NTA. There’s no argument to make. She f’d up. She should be apologizing to you.
Ypu can get a door stop at Walmart homme depot for like 3$
NTA Your bedroom should be considered a private where can be dressed or, in this case, not dressed the way you want to whenever you to for however long you want to. You want to be naked in your own private space all night long? That should not be a problem. I assume since they’re boyfriend and girlfriend that nudity is happening in their bedroom. If the length of time they stay naked in their bedroom is their choice, then it should be your choice how long you stay naked in yours. It’s not your problem if they only need to stay naked in their bedroom for five minutes while you choose to be naked the entire night. LOL!!!
NTA. You were in you room with the door shut.
Offer to get them a big neon arrow sign that points to the bathroom. Also ask why your roommate is so keen to see you naked that he's barging in instead of knocking now.
NTA.
PS. Girlfriend doesn't pay rent so she doesn't get a vote on things. This is between you and your roommate and I assume she has another place she can sleep at
Rubber or wooden door wedge under the door might help. Like the ones people use to stop the door open? Only you would use it on the inside to keep it shut. None of their business how you sleep.
You can definitely put a door jammer under your door and it's removable plus you don't have to drill or alter the doors with that.. maybe check into that?
NTA you're in your own private space. The correct reaction would be to be apologetic for invading your privacy accidentally.
How about as long as they don't get naked either?
I guess they don't want you telling them to stay dressed as a couple and what to do in their room
So shouldn't tell you what to do in yours...
Make sure to tell them they can't be naked in their room, so no sex because like your room mate you'll be barging in on them if you suspect they're naked. That's not weird or creepy given your room mate does it to you, right? NTA. They are overstepping hard.
The simple solution is to simply lock your door.
It's your room, and there's no reason for her to get upset about what you wear to bed. It's not that much different than wearing underwear to bed, or being naked when you change or shower.
Get a door bar. It goes under the handle and grips the floor and will stop your door from opening
Not even for debate, what you do in YOUR ROOM is your fucking business, and his girlfriend insecurities are not yours to handle
lol this is nuts. They should be apologizing to YOU (a) for accidentally going in your room the first time, (b) walking in to catch you naked is straight up creepy and violating even if you’re fine w/ him seeing you naked; hugely disrespectful and disregard for your boundaries.
Lay down the law. You can do whatever the fuck you want in your own bedroom. If they don’t like it they should stop opening the door.
Get a little alarm - it sticks on the door frame and makes a loud beeping when someone opens it. Should scare them into stopping, lol. And buy a cheap doorstop wedge and shove under your door when you’re in there. And start considering a new place.
Anyway, not the asshole. Enjoying airing your naked ass in your bedroom to your hearts content knowing that you did no wrong.
(Said with love from someone else who sleeps naked)
NTA, they can't stop you from sleeping any way you like in the privacy of your own room. I don't see how there's an issue if you're keeping your door shut. If the gf doesn't like it, maybe she should stay elsewhere.
Since you can't put a lock on your door, I suggest a wedge door stop, the rubber ones won't scratch the door. Maybe put a sign of some kind on your door or the bathroom door so they're distinctly different. That way, if it happens again, you can say, "The bathroom has this sign on the door. My room doesn't. Why did you come into my room in the middle of the night? That makes me uncomfortable."
NTA. How about they respect your privacy.
That's totally effed up that they expect you to wear clothes sleeping and that he barged into your room ON PURPOSE invading your privacy!!! I'd draw the line right there!!!
NTA. You don't seem to care that much if anyone else saw you naked. In your own room, lock or no, you have a reasonable assumption of privacy. Anyone else coming in with or without intention/permission does not get to dictate what you wear in your personal space.
Look up a door stopper security bar, it causes no damage and they’re relatively cheap
NTA. It’s your room, and you can do what you want to there. She should now know which door is the bathroom so there’s no reason for her to come barging in again. But you probably ought to figure out a way to avoid it happening since you don’t have locks. Good luck!
They make a bar that slides under the door handle and wedges into the floor. The more you try and open the more it wedges. No changes or holes to drill.
Seriously, she didn't know where the bathroom was? I don't buy that for a second. She is comfortable enough to spend the night then she knows where the bathroom is. She's just a Pervy, Perv, Perv! What kind of Sicko opens someone's door to see if their naked🤮? Now imagine if you were a woman and the girlfriend was a guy and he was going into your room? They should mind their own business. Who cares if you sleep naked. To each their own!
If his girlfriend is too stupid to open the correct door he can buy a sign for the bathroom. NTA
NTA — it’s your room. If you want to sleep naked covered in glitter with a large banana inserted into your corn hole while wearing a William Shatner mask, that’s your business. Any trauma sustained by someone walking into your private space is totally on them.
NTA. That’s a completely unreasonable ask. Is she planning to frequently barge into your room? What if you have somebody over? Should you have sex fully clothed to not violate their rule?
NTA. The you sleeping like that when guests are over argument is so ridiculous. If this was a communal bunk room that would be different.
It's your room, do what you want.
I work in hotel hospitality, and they do have traveling locks that you can buy that are used on the inside of hotel doors. That way, in addition to locking the door and the deadbolt you have a third way of securing your door. Not very expensive and there’s many different kinds. You can get them on Amazon. Get one of those you don’t have to drill into anything, it’s removable, and can take it with you the next place and no one will see you naked again (unless you want them too lol)
NTA
It sounds like they want you out of the apartment. If she's going to be staying over regularly, she's going to know her way around the apartment, so she's not going to burst in on you unexpectedly.
You should tell him that you're delighted with the rent reduction, now that you're splitting the rent three ways, not two.
NTA. I'm a lifelong naked sleeper so maybe I'm biased but your room, your rules. So long as you're not impacting people outside (like with loud music or smoke/smells), what you do in there is up to you. They need to butt out.
Walk in on them while they’re fucking, get mad, tell them they can’t be naked or have sex in their own private space they pay for as it makes you uncomfortable. Keep barging in to make sure they are obeying. NTA obviously.
Lock your door and put a nightlight in the bathroom.
Get a door stopper and put it inside when you're sleeping. Makes it difficult to open the door from outside.
Nta its your room..
NTA.
If she doesn't want to see, she just doesn't have to open your door now she knows which one it is.
100% NTA. They shouldn't be in your room, that's entirely on them
NTA. Your bed, your room. If anything, she owes you an apology for wandering into your room in the middle of the night and violating your privacy, accident or not.
NTA, her mistake to mix up the room. Just put something on when you leave your room. Don't they get naked when she stays over night?
NTA. Tell them you never want them naked in the bed in the apartment either. Also, if she's gonna stay there more. If they're going to dictate how you sleep and come in your room without permission, how much extra are they paying for rent?
NTA
But lock your door if you want to sleep naked
This argument seems really silly to be honest. Maybe you can compromise? Add a very funny warning sign on the door? That way she won't ever come into your room once you go to bed for the night. Maybe compromise by saying that if you go to the bathroom during the night, you'll wear a robe.
As long as you aren't flashing her I really don't see a problem here.
Try this thing.
Had a roommate who had an unfun cocaine-ketamine-gun mixaroo habit, and bought one of these to lock my door. It fits in perfectly to the door and jams it from opening.
NTA obviously, but here you go … problem solved.
https://a.co/d/1IHyhcr
NTA. Pretty sure she'll remember which door is the bathroom from now on.
Leave your door partially open and set a bucket of water on top of it. If that doesn’t stop them opening your door…
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NTA- someone (accidentally) invaded YOUR space, and now they want to make an issue of it.
That's clown-show level crap.