AITA for not wanting to watch Netflix with subtitles?
Ok, so my partner (36F) and I (36M) have been married for 11 years....our biggest fight has been because of Subtitles on Netflix, I want it, she does not....
My reasoning, I follow the story so much better when it is on, her reasoning...it is distracting. I said that when I decide on something we need to have it on, but it does create some friction still. AITA?
They could unite to fight the Real Enemy, which is that dialogue and sound mixing is absolute shit these days, especially on streaming. Amazon Prime even has a “dialogue boost” option, which is basically admitting that the existing mixing is shit! Join together to fight your common foes!
i got a soundbar for my tv that has a dialogue boost as well, everything sounds muddy without it! hate it! stop making everything that isn't dialogue so pants shittingly loud!
I have a very serious home theater, 5.4.2 (center, left, right, left side, right side, four atmos height, two woofers.) In theory, I should be able to watch anything and the center channel SHOULD BE good enough to handle the dialogue at normal human levels without having Chris Nolan-style BRRRMMMM sound/music drowning things out.
In practice, I legit sometimes need subtitles on English language stuff because some new movies and even TV shows have decided to mix dialogue at whisper levels while running sound/music at klaxon levels of loud.
I blame sound mixing in the 21st century as almost no movies I’ve watched from the 20th century are this annoying.
Yeah, I believe it. Talk to a married couple who’ve been happily married for years and they’ll tell you about their fight that was over the dumbest, smallest thing ever.
It’s my favorite thing about being married, actually.
Yeah, as a person in their 30s who has been with their partner since our 20s, this totally seems like it could be our "biggest fight". To me, biggest fight is that stupid fight that's ongoing for a while, and doesn't really matter. The pineapple on pizza fights.
Sure, there are fights about more important things, that are harder or sadder or make you more upset, but generally those aren't ongoing. Little fights like these don't get resolved because they're really not a big enough deal to be resolved, so they end up being the big fight.
In my household it's where the vaccuum cleaner should be kept. There's where I think it should go, aka the correct place, which is a bit more out of the way but makes things look tidier. There's where my partner thinks it should go, aka the wrong place, which is is slightly more easier to get because it's basically just sitting out in the open.
In some ways it's the perfect example of our different views on cleaning and tidiness, and we're never really going to agree, but also it's just the vacuum cleaner. We just sigh about it sometimes, and use it to feel a bit hard done by, and then get over it.
I have to have subtitles on, one time I was at my parents’ house and my step dad got furious at me for turning them on his tv. Some people just get passionate over them. Haha.
My family used to make fun of me for watching everything with subtitles. Now their hearing is as bad as mine and they use them too. Oh how the turn tables.
People who hate subtitles would hate watching movies in many East Asian societies or watching East Asian movies which haven't been made for the US markets as the default is to have subtitles on even if the audience are native speakers of the East Asian language concerned.
Their norm would be akin to US movie theaters defaulting to having English subtitles on in US theaters.
Subtitles as standard in theaters or home video has been the standard in East Asian theaters/home video for several decades.
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Personally, I hate watching English language things with English subtitles. I'm one of those people who find it very distracting, to the point where I'm focusing too much on reading the words and am missing the acting. It fully detracts from my experience, and I never put them on.
HOWEVER, if the person I'm watching with NEEDS subtitles to be able to watch something we're watching together, I'll suck it up and put the subtitles on because I'm not a jerk. But I'll probably hold a pillow in my lap to block them out if I can.
My husband has dyslexia, and he hates having subtitles on because they are so distracting for him. I have some hearing loss and read very fast, so I love having them on. It’s a struggle.
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AITA for not wanting to watch Netflix with subtitles?
Ok, so my partner (36F) and I (36M) have been married for 11 years....our biggest fight has been because of Subtitles on Netflix, I want it, she does not....
My reasoning, I follow the story so much better when it is on, her reasoning...it is distracting. I said that when I decide on something we need to have it on, but it does create some friction still. AITA?
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14 year old and his mom
Can you say “Oedipal complex”?
They could unite to fight the Real Enemy, which is that dialogue and sound mixing is absolute shit these days, especially on streaming. Amazon Prime even has a “dialogue boost” option, which is basically admitting that the existing mixing is shit! Join together to fight your common foes!
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i got a soundbar for my tv that has a dialogue boost as well, everything sounds muddy without it! hate it! stop making everything that isn't dialogue so pants shittingly loud!
https://tapas.io/episode/3005249
flashbacks to True Detective
They really didn't want you to be able to listen to that show.
I have a very serious home theater, 5.4.2 (center, left, right, left side, right side, four atmos height, two woofers.) In theory, I should be able to watch anything and the center channel SHOULD BE good enough to handle the dialogue at normal human levels without having Chris Nolan-style BRRRMMMM sound/music drowning things out.
In practice, I legit sometimes need subtitles on English language stuff because some new movies and even TV shows have decided to mix dialogue at whisper levels while running sound/music at klaxon levels of loud.
I blame sound mixing in the 21st century as almost no movies I’ve watched from the 20th century are this annoying.
Yeah, I believe it. Talk to a married couple who’ve been happily married for years and they’ll tell you about their fight that was over the dumbest, smallest thing ever.
It’s my favorite thing about being married, actually.
Yeah, as a person in their 30s who has been with their partner since our 20s, this totally seems like it could be our "biggest fight". To me, biggest fight is that stupid fight that's ongoing for a while, and doesn't really matter. The pineapple on pizza fights.
Sure, there are fights about more important things, that are harder or sadder or make you more upset, but generally those aren't ongoing. Little fights like these don't get resolved because they're really not a big enough deal to be resolved, so they end up being the big fight.
In my household it's where the vaccuum cleaner should be kept. There's where I think it should go, aka the correct place, which is a bit more out of the way but makes things look tidier. There's where my partner thinks it should go, aka the wrong place, which is is slightly more easier to get because it's basically just sitting out in the open.
In some ways it's the perfect example of our different views on cleaning and tidiness, and we're never really going to agree, but also it's just the vacuum cleaner. We just sigh about it sometimes, and use it to feel a bit hard done by, and then get over it.
I have to have subtitles on, one time I was at my parents’ house and my step dad got furious at me for turning them on his tv. Some people just get passionate over them. Haha.
I do too, which annoys some people I watch stuff with so I’ll turn them off if they ask me to but I so much prefer them.
I also always mute commercials which annoys some people too but that I will not bend on lol.
My family used to make fun of me for watching everything with subtitles. Now their hearing is as bad as mine and they use them too. Oh how the turn tables.
My dad HATES subtitles and throws a temper tantrum if he sees someone left them on on the tv he wants to use. So I actually do believe it.
My wife and I needed subtitles for Derry Girls.
But neither Dark nor Squid Games would have been as good dubbed. Only exception is FMA Brotherhood.
I’m confused about how this is a nuclear reaction
People who hate subtitles would hate watching movies in many East Asian societies or watching East Asian movies which haven't been made for the US markets as the default is to have subtitles on even if the audience are native speakers of the East Asian language concerned.
Their norm would be akin to US movie theaters defaulting to having English subtitles on in US theaters.
Subtitles as standard in theaters or home video has been the standard in East Asian theaters/home video for several decades.
Ah yes because nobody ever uses hyperbole to make a point 🙄. Y'all are getting as bad as r/thathappened where you believe nothing happens ever
Teenagers and neck/leg beards.
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I 100% believe this one, as TONS of people I’ve met find subtitles to be really annoying.
Personally, I hate watching English language things with English subtitles. I'm one of those people who find it very distracting, to the point where I'm focusing too much on reading the words and am missing the acting. It fully detracts from my experience, and I never put them on.
HOWEVER, if the person I'm watching with NEEDS subtitles to be able to watch something we're watching together, I'll suck it up and put the subtitles on because I'm not a jerk. But I'll probably hold a pillow in my lap to block them out if I can.
My husband has dyslexia, and he hates having subtitles on because they are so distracting for him. I have some hearing loss and read very fast, so I love having them on. It’s a struggle.
just dont look at the subtitles oh my god