I (21m) am a college student. I’m in a frat and I’m gay. It’s not a conservative group (no one has ever given me shit for it) but I’m the only one.
Every year my college has a date party to celebrate the end of finals. I didn’t pick the theme; it’s “split a suit.” Basically take the components of a suit and you have to divide that amongst you and your date. I saw the writing on the wall; a lot of guys being shirtless with blazers and suit pants, and a lot of girls in oversized dress shirts and ties with no pants.
The issue was that didn’t apply to me. I ended up asking a guy from my class I’ve been casually talking to as a first time hanging out situation (don’t worry, he’s gay too, I’m not delusional). I asked him what he felt comfortable wearing and he said he prefers to be dressed so I told him he could do the dress shirt and pants and I’d be fine with the remainder. So basically I wore a blazer, was shirtless with a tie, and had on boxer briefs. Which, to me, is on theme.
None of the guys had an issue but a friend’s gf came up to me and said that it was inappropriate and I was making the girls uncomfortable. I felt embarrassed so my date and I left. My date said I had misled him what the party would be like and I was an AH for not dressing appropriately. Now I feel like a jerk. AITA?
That was so silly. When a gay guy talks about asking another guy out for a date, my first thought isn't "oMg WhY iS tHiS gAy GuY aSkInG oUt A sTrAiGhT gUy?!?"
And like…even if he was straight and he didn’t know…that actually doesn’t have to be a huge deal. People ask people out who turn out not to be interested all the time. It doesn’t make them “delusional” lmao.
I think basically it is trying to say 'woman bad, hypocritical. Look at how they are just fine with all of them walking around with no pants, but the minute a man does it, even if it is on target for the party, they get upset!'
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it's really funny how little this actually has to do with him being gay. unless we're supposed to assume the girls were uncomfortable because it was a gay guy not wearing clothing
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AITA for not wearing pants to a party?
I (21m) am a college student. I’m in a frat and I’m gay. It’s not a conservative group (no one has ever given me shit for it) but I’m the only one.
Every year my college has a date party to celebrate the end of finals. I didn’t pick the theme; it’s “split a suit.” Basically take the components of a suit and you have to divide that amongst you and your date. I saw the writing on the wall; a lot of guys being shirtless with blazers and suit pants, and a lot of girls in oversized dress shirts and ties with no pants.
The issue was that didn’t apply to me. I ended up asking a guy from my class I’ve been casually talking to as a first time hanging out situation (don’t worry, he’s gay too, I’m not delusional). I asked him what he felt comfortable wearing and he said he prefers to be dressed so I told him he could do the dress shirt and pants and I’d be fine with the remainder. So basically I wore a blazer, was shirtless with a tie, and had on boxer briefs. Which, to me, is on theme.
None of the guys had an issue but a friend’s gf came up to me and said that it was inappropriate and I was making the girls uncomfortable. I felt embarrassed so my date and I left. My date said I had misled him what the party would be like and I was an AH for not dressing appropriately. Now I feel like a jerk. AITA?
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A young man went to a college party? Wearing boxer briefs? With no trousers?! A CO-ED PARTY?!! Goodness me, fetch the smelling salts.
If I didn't want to see a man's legs I probably wouldn't go over to his home... that's where he keeps them
lol @ the idea of 2 college age girls chiding a frat guy at a fraternity party for being too inapropro. lol. lmfao.
thank god he clarified that he didn't pick the theme of the college's party. i was about to really rip into him
“Don’t worry, he’s gay too, I’m not delusional” welp, they know their audience over there. Homophobes who think all gay men are predators.
That was so silly. When a gay guy talks about asking another guy out for a date, my first thought isn't "oMg WhY iS tHiS gAy GuY aSkInG oUt A sTrAiGhT gUy?!?"
Right? You didn’t need to explain that.
And like…even if he was straight and he didn’t know…that actually doesn’t have to be a huge deal. People ask people out who turn out not to be interested all the time. It doesn’t make them “delusional” lmao.
I don't get it. Girls are wearing shirts and ties without pants, but OOP can't wear a blazer with a tie and no pants because. . . ?
I think basically it is trying to say 'woman bad, hypocritical. Look at how they are just fine with all of them walking around with no pants, but the minute a man does it, even if it is on target for the party, they get upset!'
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it's really funny how little this actually has to do with him being gay. unless we're supposed to assume the girls were uncomfortable because it was a gay guy not wearing clothing
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