AITA for wanting to go no contact with my sister because she won't let me live with her
hi reddit I have a problem that I need some advice on. Please be kind actually criticisms is very much appreciated. Also I apologize for poor Grammer I was homeschooled very poorly
So I (21f) have been homeless for about 3 months. I've been staying in a tent outside of town since it's the only place I can camp legally. There's lots of other camps around and though I camp away from people it didn't stop danger from coming my way. About a week ago a man unzipped my tent in an attempt to assault me. Luckily I open carry and when I pulled out my gun and ran away. I reported it to police but because it was dark I didn't see his face well and I don't have a name so they can't really do anything. It's winter and I've been freezing. I've applied for shelters and anything I can but everything has a long wait list. My sister (19) has an apartment she shares with her roommate we'll call him nick (22). They have a spare room they have been trying to rent out so I mentioned to my sister on call that I thought mabey I could rent it. I get disability checks for my autism and schizophrenia while it isn't a lot it's plenty enough to cover the 400$ for the room. She told me nick was uncomfortable living with someone who was disabled and schizophrenic. This hurt but I understood. Not everyone is comfortable and that's ok I'm used to it. However I'm friends with nicks girlfriend we will call her Jess. Jess told me nick would never say that and she ended up asking him about it to which he said he never said that and he'd be more than willing to rent to me. He said he heard about what happened to me and thought me moving in would be a great option for both of us. I ended up confronting my sister on this and she started yelling at me through the phone saying she shouldn't have to take care of a grown women. I explained calmly that I would pay my rent, would buy my own food and anything else I needed but she yelled again that I was a grown women who needed to figure it out on my own and hung up.
Growing up our mom was a drug addicted so as the older sister I'd buy groceries, cook meals, clean and basically be the mother my mom wouldn't. I dropped out of highschool to do this. I struggled heavily since I'm autistic but I always did what I could. I made sure she was safe no matter what. I keep thinking about that and how I'd do anything for her but she was completely willing to let me be assaulted or worse. I don't think I can continue talking to her like everything is fine or move past this.
I feel hopeless and abandoned and I don't know what to do. If I'm selfish or if I'm in the wrong for feeling this way please tell me. I struggle with my emotions and how to regulate them so some helpful advice would really put my mind at ease. If I'm the wrong I'll admit it I just can't stop crying over this.
Says their grammar is poor then proceeds to sound okay. Oh wait they said mabey to really show it.
Not only schizophrenic but also has autism because that really sells this story. And is supposed to explain why they’re homeless, but then somehow was able to basically run the house when they were younger because the mom was a drug addict.
Schizophrenic, autistic, and yet was able to purchase a gun! It’s not that hard to buy a gun illegally, but that does add another layer to “Hell no you’re not moving into my apartment thanks.”
True, unless they’ve been involuntarily committed. And as I said, it’s not that hard to buy one illegally. My point stands that she’s probably unmedicated and has a gun, which makes her a very undesirable roommate.
She claims to be medicated and going to therapy. Not sure how she’s affording that because she said she can pay $400 to rent the room and I’m assuming that’s all her disability or at least most. Not to mention the gun she purchased which costs money too so she could easily save up money to at least get her a hotel room. In the comments she’s claiming this is real, but when pressed about stuff she doesn’t respond. If this is true, definitely sad and hopefully she can get help, but if it’s not true (which I’m kinda leaning towards) then why come up with this lol?
OOP originally said they were also 19 but then changed it to 21.
Not a lot of action on the post yet but it's weird that dropping out of homeschool high school hasn't been brought up.
It is late/very early here in MyCountrystan (US). No one seemed to think it was extremely reasonable for the sister to not want a (probably) unmedicated schizophrenic with a gun moving in, either.
Some people have shown up to question a few things and we get "I'm on meds and in therapy I wouldn't trust myself with a gun if I wasn't on them. Been on since I was 19 they are amazing" from OOP. Oh great stuff, good thing people never go off their meds.
It's amazing how the autistic, unmedicated schizophrenic with difficulty regulating her emotions stayed perfectly calm during the conflict while her sister who has no problems whatsoever screamed irrationally throughout.
Don’t forget the autistic, unmedicated schizophrenic with difficulty regulating her emotions has a gun. It’s an Emotional Support Sidearm. It helps keep her calm.
Lack of critical thinking skills; too hung up on the emotional aspects to notice the contractions and to fill in the blanks (homeless means probably not receiving psych care or meds; has a gun; states they have problems regulating emotions = sister has good reason to not want her in her home); the need to signal virtue is more important than reading critically or for comprehension.
This is probably more of a real answer than you wanted 😆
I actually knew someone kinda like this. Not all the fake grammar shit, but unmedicated/poorly schizophrenic homeless and unable to stay with anyone. A friend took her in for a while but it just wasn't a sustainable situation. What makes this more fake is the absence of an explanation of why they aren't medicated, bc schizophrenics know damn well the stigma surrounding their illness. The girl i knew had very bad side effects with some meds and being homeless and without transportation just had a really hard time keeping up with prescriptions otherwise. It's just sad what happens to the mentally ill homeless population. Most family and friends aren't equipped to help them and there are just not government programs.
I’m assuming unmedicated because there’s no mention of meds, needing to obtain them or keep psych appts in the narrative, as well as knowing how hard it is in real life for those who are mentally ill and homeless to keep up with their meds and appointments, even in areas with good availability of services. The narrative provided could lack these details because it’s 100% fictional. Taking it at face value, though, yeah: the OOP claims to be autistic, schizophrenic, makes no mentions of being on meds but says she can’t emotionally regulate well and has a gun. Very few people are equipped to take on a roommate with those specs.
Perhaps the most unrealistic part of this is a mentally ill homeless woman reporting an attempted assault, where she didn’t even see the attacker’s face, to the police. In what world??
Reads like a fake story only because OOP insists that her sister is simply evil, like, zero reason for her to yell at OOP except the fact that she hates her disabilities.
Being a badly homeschool kid is a different approach to the "English isn't my first language" but but then, as usual, the grammar isn't even that bad like anywhere except a few(?) misspelled words here and there.
Also the homeless schizophrenic with a gun? I'm very sympathetic to mental health struggles but I would also hesitate to allow this person to live in an apartment with me if I were in this situation. Though I don't believe this is a real post anyways.
Edit: Id also like to add, very very few homeless people have guns, registered or unregistered. It actually typically tends to be safer to NOT have one when you're homeless. A gun can be sold or traded for money or food. It could end up in the wrong hands or just stolen from you, never to be seen again, as obviously there isnt really a safe way to store it when you're homeless. And also, any encounters with cops as a homeless person with a gun is immediately more dangerous.
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AITA for wanting to go no contact with my sister because she won't let me live with her
hi reddit I have a problem that I need some advice on. Please be kind actually criticisms is very much appreciated. Also I apologize for poor Grammer I was homeschooled very poorly
So I (21f) have been homeless for about 3 months. I've been staying in a tent outside of town since it's the only place I can camp legally. There's lots of other camps around and though I camp away from people it didn't stop danger from coming my way. About a week ago a man unzipped my tent in an attempt to assault me. Luckily I open carry and when I pulled out my gun and ran away. I reported it to police but because it was dark I didn't see his face well and I don't have a name so they can't really do anything. It's winter and I've been freezing. I've applied for shelters and anything I can but everything has a long wait list. My sister (19) has an apartment she shares with her roommate we'll call him nick (22). They have a spare room they have been trying to rent out so I mentioned to my sister on call that I thought mabey I could rent it. I get disability checks for my autism and schizophrenia while it isn't a lot it's plenty enough to cover the 400$ for the room. She told me nick was uncomfortable living with someone who was disabled and schizophrenic. This hurt but I understood. Not everyone is comfortable and that's ok I'm used to it. However I'm friends with nicks girlfriend we will call her Jess. Jess told me nick would never say that and she ended up asking him about it to which he said he never said that and he'd be more than willing to rent to me. He said he heard about what happened to me and thought me moving in would be a great option for both of us. I ended up confronting my sister on this and she started yelling at me through the phone saying she shouldn't have to take care of a grown women. I explained calmly that I would pay my rent, would buy my own food and anything else I needed but she yelled again that I was a grown women who needed to figure it out on my own and hung up.
Growing up our mom was a drug addicted so as the older sister I'd buy groceries, cook meals, clean and basically be the mother my mom wouldn't. I dropped out of highschool to do this. I struggled heavily since I'm autistic but I always did what I could. I made sure she was safe no matter what. I keep thinking about that and how I'd do anything for her but she was completely willing to let me be assaulted or worse. I don't think I can continue talking to her like everything is fine or move past this.
I feel hopeless and abandoned and I don't know what to do. If I'm selfish or if I'm in the wrong for feeling this way please tell me. I struggle with my emotions and how to regulate them so some helpful advice would really put my mind at ease. If I'm the wrong I'll admit it I just can't stop crying over this.
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Says their grammar is poor then proceeds to sound okay. Oh wait they said mabey to really show it.
Not only schizophrenic but also has autism because that really sells this story. And is supposed to explain why they’re homeless, but then somehow was able to basically run the house when they were younger because the mom was a drug addict.
This story has as many holes as Swiss cheese.
Schizophrenic, autistic, and yet was able to purchase a gun! It’s not that hard to buy a gun illegally, but that does add another layer to “Hell no you’re not moving into my apartment thanks.”
Have you been to a red state? Chances are the way she bought it wasn’t illegal.
Even in a red state, you need to have an address, and an involuntary psych hold might show up on a background check.
diagnosis of schizophrenia doesn’t automatically disqualify someone from buying a gun legally in america
True, unless they’ve been involuntarily committed. And as I said, it’s not that hard to buy one illegally. My point stands that she’s probably unmedicated and has a gun, which makes her a very undesirable roommate.
but who doesn’t love unmedicated homeless schizophrenics with guns
Her terrible, mean sister, obviously.
She claims to be medicated and going to therapy. Not sure how she’s affording that because she said she can pay $400 to rent the room and I’m assuming that’s all her disability or at least most. Not to mention the gun she purchased which costs money too so she could easily save up money to at least get her a hotel room. In the comments she’s claiming this is real, but when pressed about stuff she doesn’t respond. If this is true, definitely sad and hopefully she can get help, but if it’s not true (which I’m kinda leaning towards) then why come up with this lol?
Internet attention, and possibly getting paid the more engagement.
OOP originally said they were also 19 but then changed it to 21.
Not a lot of action on the post yet but it's weird that dropping out of homeschool high school hasn't been brought up.
It is late/very early here in MyCountrystan (US). No one seemed to think it was extremely reasonable for the sister to not want a (probably) unmedicated schizophrenic with a gun moving in, either.
Some people have shown up to question a few things and we get "I'm on meds and in therapy I wouldn't trust myself with a gun if I wasn't on them. Been on since I was 19 they are amazing" from OOP. Oh great stuff, good thing people never go off their meds.
Drink!
It's amazing how the autistic, unmedicated schizophrenic with difficulty regulating her emotions stayed perfectly calm during the conflict while her sister who has no problems whatsoever screamed irrationally throughout.
Don’t forget the autistic, unmedicated schizophrenic with difficulty regulating her emotions has a gun. It’s an Emotional Support Sidearm. It helps keep her calm.
Haven't seen one of those in a while........
So: dropped out of highschool to take care of a drug addicted mom. So who homeschooled her?
She is schizophrenic but has open carry permit?
Super easy to get, too! 🤣
why do people eat this shit up. the “poor” grammar comes off as so fake
Lack of critical thinking skills; too hung up on the emotional aspects to notice the contractions and to fill in the blanks (homeless means probably not receiving psych care or meds; has a gun; states they have problems regulating emotions = sister has good reason to not want her in her home); the need to signal virtue is more important than reading critically or for comprehension.
This is probably more of a real answer than you wanted 😆
I actually knew someone kinda like this. Not all the fake grammar shit, but unmedicated/poorly schizophrenic homeless and unable to stay with anyone. A friend took her in for a while but it just wasn't a sustainable situation. What makes this more fake is the absence of an explanation of why they aren't medicated, bc schizophrenics know damn well the stigma surrounding their illness. The girl i knew had very bad side effects with some meds and being homeless and without transportation just had a really hard time keeping up with prescriptions otherwise. It's just sad what happens to the mentally ill homeless population. Most family and friends aren't equipped to help them and there are just not government programs.
I’m assuming unmedicated because there’s no mention of meds, needing to obtain them or keep psych appts in the narrative, as well as knowing how hard it is in real life for those who are mentally ill and homeless to keep up with their meds and appointments, even in areas with good availability of services. The narrative provided could lack these details because it’s 100% fictional. Taking it at face value, though, yeah: the OOP claims to be autistic, schizophrenic, makes no mentions of being on meds but says she can’t emotionally regulate well and has a gun. Very few people are equipped to take on a roommate with those specs.
OP is now claiming she is taking her meds:
"I'm on meds and in therapy I wouldn't trust myself with a gun if I wasn't on them. Been on since I was 19 they are amazing"
That’s even less believable. I don’t think a psychiatrist would be comfortable with an armed patient.
Most people seem to be calling it out
Perhaps the most unrealistic part of this is a mentally ill homeless woman reporting an attempted assault, where she didn’t even see the attacker’s face, to the police. In what world??
Reads like a fake story only because OOP insists that her sister is simply evil, like, zero reason for her to yell at OOP except the fact that she hates her disabilities.
An armed, probably unmedicated person with a serious mental illness - who wouldn’t want that as a roomie?
No, no, no, can't be the issue! Because OOP calmly asked and her evil sister just yelled that grown women needed to figure it out and hung up!
Being a badly homeschool kid is a different approach to the "English isn't my first language" but but then, as usual, the grammar isn't even that bad like anywhere except a few(?) misspelled words here and there.
Also the homeless schizophrenic with a gun? I'm very sympathetic to mental health struggles but I would also hesitate to allow this person to live in an apartment with me if I were in this situation. Though I don't believe this is a real post anyways.
Edit: Id also like to add, very very few homeless people have guns, registered or unregistered. It actually typically tends to be safer to NOT have one when you're homeless. A gun can be sold or traded for money or food. It could end up in the wrong hands or just stolen from you, never to be seen again, as obviously there isnt really a safe way to store it when you're homeless. And also, any encounters with cops as a homeless person with a gun is immediately more dangerous.
I think the only good thing about this post is that it's likely not AI.
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NTA. Seriously, you gotta look out for number one when familys being like that. Good luck out there.