AITA for not giving my step-daughter my Military College Benefits?
My(40M) wife(38F) and I have been married for a little over 3 years. We have two kids ages 5 and 17. The eldest is hers from a prior marriage. I've been in the Military for almost 23 years and was recently medically discharged and given education benefits for my kids and my wife along with health benefits and others benefits.
My wife asked me if her daughter would be eligible for my benefits including college and health and i told her i didnt think so because i never legally adopted her and she never changed her last name to mine because she "didn't want her dad's family to get mad"1
Well i just found out that she does indeed qualify for the benefits when i went to get my retired ID card. But my step-daughter's dad passed away over 5yrs ago and she gets $250/mo in his social security so she has a little over $10,000 saved for college, and she's also going to get an extra $350/mo from his life insurance he had and that's until age 23 i think.
Anyway, my wife hasnt been contributing much financially ever since we got together. She drives for uber but does it VERY part-time and probably nets around $500/mo. She only got this job after our son started school and I had been nagging her to get a job after being a sahm the entire time against my wishes.
She's now stressing about her daughter's college and i'm hoping this is the motivation she needs to get a better-paying job, or at least put in more hours. I know it would be easier and financially better for me to just give my step-daughter my college benefits, but idk part of me doesn't want to. I'll also add that we can live comfortably on my income alone, i just want her to work to contribute, since i've never felt she was a very good sahm and she never really packed me lunches or did any of the sahm duties she was supposed to beyond the bare minimum, and expected me to do 50% of household duties, which I did.
So, AITA for not wanting to give her my college benefits, even though i could?
i've never felt she was a very good sahm and she never really packed me lunches or did any of the sahm duties she was supposed to beyond the bare minimum, and expected me to do 50% of household duties, which I did.
Love how the post is about the step-daughter, but OOP couldn't resist to throw a classic "lazy SAHM wife" just in case the overall "waman bad" tone wasn't enough.
eta: lol he even doubles down in the comments
No, she actually did a bait and switch, said she was going to work, and then decided to be a sahm, while demanding me to do 50% of the housework.
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AITA for not giving my step-daughter my Military College Benefits?
My(40M) wife(38F) and I have been married for a little over 3 years. We have two kids ages 5 and 17. The eldest is hers from a prior marriage. I've been in the Military for almost 23 years and was recently medically discharged and given education benefits for my kids and my wife along with health benefits and others benefits.
My wife asked me if her daughter would be eligible for my benefits including college and health and i told her i didnt think so because i never legally adopted her and she never changed her last name to mine because she "didn't want her dad's family to get mad"1
Well i just found out that she does indeed qualify for the benefits when i went to get my retired ID card. But my step-daughter's dad passed away over 5yrs ago and she gets $250/mo in his social security so she has a little over $10,000 saved for college, and she's also going to get an extra $350/mo from his life insurance he had and that's until age 23 i think.
Anyway, my wife hasnt been contributing much financially ever since we got together. She drives for uber but does it VERY part-time and probably nets around $500/mo. She only got this job after our son started school and I had been nagging her to get a job after being a sahm the entire time against my wishes.
She's now stressing about her daughter's college and i'm hoping this is the motivation she needs to get a better-paying job, or at least put in more hours. I know it would be easier and financially better for me to just give my step-daughter my college benefits, but idk part of me doesn't want to. I'll also add that we can live comfortably on my income alone, i just want her to work to contribute, since i've never felt she was a very good sahm and she never really packed me lunches or did any of the sahm duties she was supposed to beyond the bare minimum, and expected me to do 50% of household duties, which I did.
So, AITA for not wanting to give her my college benefits, even though i could?
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Love how the post is about the step-daughter, but OOP couldn't resist to throw a classic "lazy SAHM wife" just in case the overall "waman bad" tone wasn't enough.
eta: lol he even doubles down in the comments
I just love the sheer irrelevance of her allegedly being a bad sahm is to the story. Incredibly forced.
"In addition I think
Carthage needs to be destroyedSAHMs are lazy"That’s what OOP gets for not making his wife sign a legally binding contract before he married her, what a moron.
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