There’s this guy i’ve been talking to for a few months, and we’re super super into each other like there’s a crazy physical attraction, we met multiple times then he moved to another city, and because of certain circumstances we weren’t able to officially date and be in a relationship so we just continued talking and we sometimes get sexy and send photos and do stuff on the phone, but since that we haven’t gotten the chance to meet irl again since he moved to another city
Tomorrow i’m going to his city and i’m gonna have some free time so he asked me to go over and i think we all know what’s gonna happen, i kinda want it because the attraction is crazy and i’m into him.
But the problem is that he’s been with so many girls and i haven’t been with so many guys yk, and it’s making me super nervous cuz what if i’m not as good irl or like i don’t compare to those girls like yk?
I just need your opinion cuz i’m nervous as fuck and can’t make the decision
First decide what type of relationship you’re looking for. If it’s a hookup or FWB, then fine go over.
If you’re wanting something more, I would not go to his house, but say I’m finally in town, I think it’s time for a date!
As far as comparing yourself to other women, stop doing that today. You are unique!! If he wanted the other girls, he wouldn’t be talking to you. Get out of your head, enjoy life.
I mean we both know we CANT have something more than fwb so i do not want something else tbh But i’m nervous af to do it cuz i’ve never had sex with anyone other than people who i’ve been in committed relationships with and i don’t know if i have the balls to do it tbh
Then I wouldn’t do it. Your gut is telling you something feels off, trust your instinct.
That’s something you can’t take back. As a mom to a teen daughter, I also think going to his house is not safe.
It sounds like she wants the hookup but is nervous about being an underperforming sexual partner. She is only interested in casual sex with this person, and she has not indicated any worry for her own safety with this person. It sounds like this is someone she knows, trusts, and just wants to fuck, but is nervous to do so as this will be their first time together and her first casual hookup.
Your concerns and her concerns don't seem to share a venn diagram. Are you sure you're not projecting your own concerns onto her?
As someone that did this once - I deeply regretted it, sex with someone outside of a relationship just isn't at all the same and plus it's lame. I mean, to each their own, but I'll always be an advocate for keeping sex within a committed relationship.
Tell a friend where you're going please. Also, just because he has been with lots of women doesn't mean he's good at sex. Also he might be lying about that lol Wear a condom. How far are you driving for this d?
Lmao not too far like 45mins
well, let's not make it a habit.
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Why? The price of gas? Lol. It's just 45 mins.
Your fear isn't about sex. It's about vulnerability. You're scared the fantasy you've built over months won't survive the reality of two nervous, real people in a room. That's a valid fear. But here's the secret: it won't be the fantasy. It'll be better or worse, but it'll be real. And real is where you find out if this is actually something or just a great texting partner
You’re right Maybe it’s worth checking it out, itll maybe be the best sex or just a fail and won’t ever do it again
If I were you I would just ask him to get a meal with you. If it goes well, maybe go then. But condoms for sure, don't let him convince you it feels better without one
To a man a nut is a nut 😭 as long as they get it, it’s fine.
Tbh just focus on satisfying yourself, dw about the other people he’s been with they’re not important😂 He probably just sees them as another hookup.
Use protection, you don’t know what he’s been up to.
Actually, you DO know what he's been up to. Insist on protection.
Even then you still don’t haha.
Sounds like you want to do it, so go do it. I really think it's that simple.
I’d say that the biggest issue is being in an endless no man’s land with him. So I’d say go over there only if you are willing to date other people.
I wouldn’t worry about him having more experience.
First of all, u should not be asking ur self if youll be good enough, u should be asking ur self if youll be comfortable. Thats the priority at the end of the day. If u cant trust him with ur body, boundaries, and emotions, dont bother. If its just abt sex, it probs wont end well.
Go get your freak on!
Get some dick, you can always ghost if it doesn’t go well. Or it may go swimmingly and you’ll be happy you did. As long as you feel safe about it is what really matters
Gross.
Okay, stay a virgin then 🤷♂️
Youre focused on his exes, but the real issue is your safety the first time meeting a semi-stranger. Public place first. Dont go to his house.
It’s not my first time meeting him i met him multiple times
NO. Women are not supposed to do that. Don't go inside a man's house whom you have never met before.
No i’ve met him before
Did you time travel here from the 1800s?