If you’re a man, learn to take the time on the way home to clear the mind and soul of all the weight it carried all day, essential before you walk into a house with you’re wife and kids who are much more sensitive than the a holes at work.
Just fyi women also have jobs....we have jobs. We go.to work. And we come home. Just. Heads up. I agree overall and you may have meant that you feel that's harder for men... But, just in case you weren't aware, women have jobs.
Isn't it sad that we need to do this? Why does work need to be such a stressful place? I get why it's stressful in some careers, but with most careers, the world isn't going to end if we actually enjoy the job.
Nah, when I was in college and my mother was facing empty nest syndrome, she 'adopted' a relative as her own daughter. Until the said relative didn't do 100% what my mother wanted and then my mother abandoned her too.
No one can replace a loving father to his kids.
The question is: have you even tried to be one. If you didn't, for sure you can be replaced. But if you did, you won't be replaced ever.
Does anyone feel like jobs today are more soul sucking then ever before. At the end of the day I am so wiped out that I don’t have the energy for anything. There are days I wish I had a brain dead job where At the end of the day I was not wiped out and could focus on other aspects of my life. The other issue I seem to have is at the end of the day I don’t really have a lot of extra income to even have a life with. It seems like people back in the day had more disposable income and I beleive not staring at a computer all day left a person with more energy to put towards other areas in their life
It sounds like it was written by a committee detached from reality. How do you think we live? We don't work for pleasure - most of us are stuck in endless exhaustion just to survive. Without serious economic change and real improvements in the lives of workers, this advice is rubbish. It is only suitable for a small percentage of people who are lucky enough to have choices and power.
I would not go that far. I’ve seen kids forget about a parent so fast it made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. Heck, I’m starting to make my own food just to be safe and I don’t think I’m that bad a husband relatively speaking…
I absolutely am replaceable everywhere. The only place that makes me feel good is work - i do my job well and its recognized. I get off work and its the loneliest I've ever felt. The day I eat a bullet my employer will feel it more than any of those around me
This is assuming we have healthy relationships with our family. Admittedly though, I find the idea of my estranged family using my death for empathy and sympathy when they deserve absolutely nothing of the sort to be absolutely vile and infuriating.
Today I came home and instinctively opened my laptop and resumed work like on autopilot while my child is alone in his room playing, and I thought to myself wtf are you dumbass doing
My husband and I are expecting a baby in the spring and I have been thinking about this constantly. I have a high stress job right now and it’s very much taking away from my ability to be productive and empowered at home, and I feel like the extra burden is falling on my husband which I hate. I’m really working on my ability to manage the stress of the job, and also with feelings of failure/letting go of my image of perfect or successful. I don’t want it to get worse when I have our baby and I don’t want them to have my mental habits. Being an adult is so hard sometimes.
Wait. That's a household with just two adults? How much is there to do?.did I misunderstand? What do you expect yourself to be doing? Is it even actually unequal what your husband is doing is drastically more than you are? Think about this very hard before that baby gets here bc the husband is supposed to do HALF of the parenting work and HALF of the unpaid domestic work as well. ...HALF. also there are no gold stars at the end and you will never get paid for things like seasonal decor and stuff like that. Be careful with your energy
I guess I wrote this in a moment when I was feeling a lot and didn’t explain much well.
It’s a household of 2 adults who both work full time, and 3 cats, and baby in a few months.
The burdens I say fall on my husband are often things like dishes, laundry, cooking…yes I’m aware that a household is a half and half thing. And my husband is fantastic and does everything he can for us considering I’m pregnant. He doesn’t complain. I still feed the animals, go shopping, tidy up, and mentally plan for things like hosting Christmas with family and making arrangements for that to work. (Family is exhausting for a whole list of other reasons)
I’m exhausted, and work doesn’t care that it takes more energy to do things now, I’m suppose to “be a manager and handle the extra workload” and come home and just run out of steam by then. Husband works steady, consistent hours and doesn’t have to manage a team, his job is more solitary and as long as he hits his metrics, they leave him alone. I used to have that job too but moved up for more money, and all the headache that’s come with it. My hours are everywhere, I’m responsible for making sure absolutely everything is done, and there WILL be an email if it isn’t.
I’m going to find a way to be more balanced and not so whiney about it. My leave will be 3 months and it’ll really put things into perspective for me. The busy nature of the holidays isn’t helping with the burnout. I know my husband would really like if I made cookies like I always do for Christmas, but I still haven’t and I feel bad about the hobbies and fun things I don’t make my routine anymore. Just mulling over dumb things like this isn’t doing me or him any favors, so I’m just going to find solutions instead.
I'd say I'm less than 100% replaceable at work; to be honest I'd love to see them scramble and panic the first few weeks until they worked it all out.... Is that morbid?!?
👏👏yes I have seen this where I work. A guy was commenting how he heard someone working 7 days a week and getting overtime. But he was saying that he wasnt getting as much and was jealous of the guy that is basically working his life away because of that great big paycheck. I was like dont be jealous of him, he is spending time to be in a place that doesnt give a crap about him and just needs a warm body to do the job.
If you’re a man, learn to take the time on the way home to clear the mind and soul of all the weight it carried all day, essential before you walk into a house with you’re wife and kids who are much more sensitive than the a holes at work.
Clock out your mood before you clock in home
This was the advice my therapist kept insisting on always.
The prison shrink said the same.
Just fyi women also have jobs....we have jobs. We go.to work. And we come home. Just. Heads up. I agree overall and you may have meant that you feel that's harder for men... But, just in case you weren't aware, women have jobs.
Isn't it sad that we need to do this? Why does work need to be such a stressful place? I get why it's stressful in some careers, but with most careers, the world isn't going to end if we actually enjoy the job.
My family will 100% get over it as soon as the life insurance and inheritance checks clear.
That’s fucked up
Eh, I'm not very likeable, but I'm good at making money.
Well, as a random internet stranger, I like you c:
Loooool, thanks!
Money is half of our lives I believe.
Money is necessary for a comfortable life, money might not make you happy, but knowing you provided for your family is true happiness
Wanna get me a copy of Baldurs Gate 3?
It's the truth. Unfortunately far from every marriage and relationship happens for love.
I don’t even know you, but I know you are worth more then that
Feels that way sometimes. Would you get over it like that tho?
I mean, I'd be dead?
I mean if they died.
I'd be pretty sad and lonely. But that's mostly cause I don't have any other life.
Awww. That sucks but tbh, with folks like that… who cares when were dead 💀?
BRB, telling my boss Im irreplaceable at home
This can be taken as a joke, but at the end of the day, even your current boss isn't irreplaceable.
I can tell you what they said - IDGAF ....what the internet tell you, you're irreplaceable at work.
Your boss doesn't remind you on a regular basis that you're replaceable at work? Weird.
You are 100% replaceable even at home.
Maybe replaceable to your wife but not kids or your parents
That's not true either.
I haven't spoken to my father in over 20yrs. No he's not dead. Just not interested in us when it mattered, so I'm not interested in him now.
Same with me
"And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon..."
exactly
except I'm not going to drink or beat my wife (if I ever get one), but you get the picture
But do you have another father you replaced him with?
Gondor has no king.
Gondor needs no king.
Gondor is... it's own king?
Sorry, i don't think that one was in the books.
Nah, when I was in college and my mother was facing empty nest syndrome, she 'adopted' a relative as her own daughter. Until the said relative didn't do 100% what my mother wanted and then my mother abandoned her too.
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70% of women initiate divorce
Even the single ones?
You meant to say 70% of divorce is initiated by women.
No one can replace a loving father to his kids. The question is: have you even tried to be one. If you didn't, for sure you can be replaced. But if you did, you won't be replaced ever.
Meanwhile, my 11-year-old: "I hate you dad, I wish you were dead!" because I served the wrong shape of pasta.
Well, if you'd died immediately after he said that, he might never get over it.
I'll try that next time!
Does anyone feel like jobs today are more soul sucking then ever before. At the end of the day I am so wiped out that I don’t have the energy for anything. There are days I wish I had a brain dead job where At the end of the day I was not wiped out and could focus on other aspects of my life. The other issue I seem to have is at the end of the day I don’t really have a lot of extra income to even have a life with. It seems like people back in the day had more disposable income and I beleive not staring at a computer all day left a person with more energy to put towards other areas in their life
It sounds like it was written by a committee detached from reality. How do you think we live? We don't work for pleasure - most of us are stuck in endless exhaustion just to survive. Without serious economic change and real improvements in the lives of workers, this advice is rubbish. It is only suitable for a small percentage of people who are lucky enough to have choices and power.
Work wouldn't replace you, they would just give your work to the new guy and call it efficiency.
Jokes on you my family wouldn't care either
After reading those comments I feel very blessed to have a family that doesn’t consider me replaceable.
I wish I had realized this much earlier. I paid dearly for it. Don’t be me.
r/thanksimcured
Your job posting will be on Indeed before your obituary.
Nah, lots of people are replaceable at home.
I dont find this sentiment endearing.... at all.
This isn’t true. You’re completely replaceable in the family/home.
idk depends on who you married, don't you think? sweeping ahhh generalization
Sure. It's also not difficult to multitask. This equation falls apart when you lose a job.
No lies told here
r/im14andthisisdeep
What family? I don't have one because I'm replaceable everywhere🙃
I live alone :O
I would not go that far. I’ve seen kids forget about a parent so fast it made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. Heck, I’m starting to make my own food just to be safe and I don’t think I’m that bad a husband relatively speaking…
Landlord would have a new tenant easily when I'm gone
Ehhh....my family don't even know if I'm alive or not lol
I absolutely am replaceable everywhere. The only place that makes me feel good is work - i do my job well and its recognized. I get off work and its the loneliest I've ever felt. The day I eat a bullet my employer will feel it more than any of those around me
You need new people. You orobi know that already but...new people, go get them, life is short
Yes been searching. Making friends as an adult sucks but I can try or wallow, so I try
It is hard but it's worth it. You really only need a few people that you really like. Makes all the difference though
My job would replace me in a year, if they're REALLY fast about it. Doesn't mean I disagree with the sentiment though. XD
This is assuming we have healthy relationships with our family. Admittedly though, I find the idea of my estranged family using my death for empathy and sympathy when they deserve absolutely nothing of the sort to be absolutely vile and infuriating.
If my mother or sister is alive when I die I have already instructed the rest of my family that they are not allowed to attend my funeral.
Thanks for the reminder, now I’m calling my mom
Today I came home and instinctively opened my laptop and resumed work like on autopilot while my child is alone in his room playing, and I thought to myself wtf are you dumbass doing
I work for my house payments and a little food. I don't have much extra after that. I try to work hard so I can take better vacations
And take your damned PTO. Every single day you get, take it.
My husband and I are expecting a baby in the spring and I have been thinking about this constantly. I have a high stress job right now and it’s very much taking away from my ability to be productive and empowered at home, and I feel like the extra burden is falling on my husband which I hate. I’m really working on my ability to manage the stress of the job, and also with feelings of failure/letting go of my image of perfect or successful. I don’t want it to get worse when I have our baby and I don’t want them to have my mental habits. Being an adult is so hard sometimes.
Wait. That's a household with just two adults? How much is there to do?.did I misunderstand? What do you expect yourself to be doing? Is it even actually unequal what your husband is doing is drastically more than you are? Think about this very hard before that baby gets here bc the husband is supposed to do HALF of the parenting work and HALF of the unpaid domestic work as well. ...HALF. also there are no gold stars at the end and you will never get paid for things like seasonal decor and stuff like that. Be careful with your energy
I guess I wrote this in a moment when I was feeling a lot and didn’t explain much well. It’s a household of 2 adults who both work full time, and 3 cats, and baby in a few months.
The burdens I say fall on my husband are often things like dishes, laundry, cooking…yes I’m aware that a household is a half and half thing. And my husband is fantastic and does everything he can for us considering I’m pregnant. He doesn’t complain. I still feed the animals, go shopping, tidy up, and mentally plan for things like hosting Christmas with family and making arrangements for that to work. (Family is exhausting for a whole list of other reasons)
I’m exhausted, and work doesn’t care that it takes more energy to do things now, I’m suppose to “be a manager and handle the extra workload” and come home and just run out of steam by then. Husband works steady, consistent hours and doesn’t have to manage a team, his job is more solitary and as long as he hits his metrics, they leave him alone. I used to have that job too but moved up for more money, and all the headache that’s come with it. My hours are everywhere, I’m responsible for making sure absolutely everything is done, and there WILL be an email if it isn’t.
I’m going to find a way to be more balanced and not so whiney about it. My leave will be 3 months and it’ll really put things into perspective for me. The busy nature of the holidays isn’t helping with the burnout. I know my husband would really like if I made cookies like I always do for Christmas, but I still haven’t and I feel bad about the hobbies and fun things I don’t make my routine anymore. Just mulling over dumb things like this isn’t doing me or him any favors, so I’m just going to find solutions instead.
As the old saying goes.
Leave work problems at the door when you get home and leave home problems at the door when you get to work.
I really wish people got back to the second part again.
Ha, I don't have a family jokes on you
💯
It is very easy to forget this.
Don’t care. Just finished writing the Will. going to get my two signatures and then we’re going to find out if my hand slips while driving.
I'd say I'm less than 100% replaceable at work; to be honest I'd love to see them scramble and panic the first few weeks until they worked it all out.... Is that morbid?!?
👏👏yes I have seen this where I work. A guy was commenting how he heard someone working 7 days a week and getting overtime. But he was saying that he wasnt getting as much and was jealous of the guy that is basically working his life away because of that great big paycheck. I was like dont be jealous of him, he is spending time to be in a place that doesnt give a crap about him and just needs a warm body to do the job.
my family don't gaf
My job would have to hire three people to replace me
My wife would settle for her yoga instructor
Jokes on you I think my family would be relieved if I dropped dead
Yes, there isn't a single person in America whose family wouldn't be happy if they disappeared suddenly.
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Yeah, I guess my family would have trouble getting over not being listed in my will. They'd be expecting a good pay day when they found out I died.
No one can replace me at work😇