Hi! As the title said I’m a transracial adoptee with AvPd.
The reason to share this is because, even tho my story is rare, I still want to inform you about this because these 2 topics/ facts about me are something that I’d wish were represented.
If you don’t know, Avpd is a personality disorder that makes you think a certain way that’ll influence the way you think and handle yourself, others and situations. This disorder is avoidance based so doing this is a bit out of my comfort yet i still function pretty okay now
(Please know that this is different than social anxiety and an avoidant attachment)
I’m overly literal sometimes, so I just want to double check. You mean transracial as in your birth parents and you are a different race, correct? Not that you’re, for example, white but you want people to think you’re another race?
Yeah so my parents are white and I'm Asian
Lol I’m glad it’s that one, though I imagine you have your struggles. Have you been raised with any of your birth parents’ cultural knowledge/traditions, or are you just “culturally white”?
I have not. You would say I’m raised ‘culturally white’
I have never heard of avpd until now but do you think it was caused by adoption trauma?
Mostly but not wholely. Adoption itself doesn't cause AvPD, but their factors can contribute and influence later development and life experiences
Do you resent your parents for adopting outside of their race?
I don't think you can(nor need) to change races in order to live in a family of a different race.
Your genetics etc. will not disappear, so please don't fool yourself too much.
I think you take the ‘trans’ a bit too literal if we talk about the outside. You know the difference between nationality and ethnicity? Well What I’m meant to say is that I always will be Asian looking (my ethnicity, that I’ll never change) but I’m traditionally/ culturally raised as white (my nationality) on the inside because of my adoption. You can’t change your ethnicity but you can have a different nationality. That’s what you call a transracial adoptee :)
I don't understand this comment? You can't change your race. Op was adopted into a family of a different race.
Do you have any advice for parents who are adopting a child of a different race?
I just don't know what AvPd is so I need to look it up.
Also adopted though same race as my parents, I have cousins who are also adopted from other races as our other family though.
Was it an international adoption? How old were you?
Absolutely not.