Her Sister was supposed to be here as moral support, but the kiddo decided to arrive a few days early and said Sister won't arrive until the 26th, so I Will be support instead. And No, my daughters don't have a very good relationship with their mom, hence me being called in. Ask me anything. I will answer as time permits.
EDIT: Gotta go!
Final Edit: At 8.30pm on Christmas eve my daughter gave birth to a healthy boy!
How did you feel when they asked you to be in the room with her? Congratulations on your new grandbaby!
Honored, and proud that she feel my precense is comforting.
Thank you.
You are wonderful.
No question but I just want to say I think you’re a great dad in that your daughter trusts you enough to have you join in on this very intimate moment in her life. Best wishes for a smooth delivery and congratulations to all
Thank you.
I'll ask it because most women don't have their fathers in the room while they are giving birth: are you at all feeling weird about it?
Not at all. We have a very healthy relationship, and deep trust
You are a wonderful father!
And congratulations! It's always super exciting to welcome a new baby to the family!
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If he was a good dad he’d have changed 1000 diapers and wouldn’t be weirded out by this. My dad was absent from when I was like 12 until I was an adult, but now, if I had another baby, I’d want him there with me too!
I had 6 months of paternity leave with her from age 7m to 13m, so yes: quite a few diapers.
Is this your first grandbaby? Congratulations!
First one, yes. Thank you. I'll convey any gratz to her as well.
You must be so excited. I was the first, and my now 95 year old grandmother is still one of my favorite people. Enjoy every moment!
Excited is not quite enough strong a word. :)
I was first in my generation as well. Sadly my grandmother passed away late october and never got to see 5 generations at the same time
Is it your first time in the delivery room ? If not - all the best and advance congratulations to the grandpa to be. If yes - please read up. It is messy, painful and ultra emotional for all parties involved.
Not first time, was present at birth of both my daughters. Cried like a baby at both. :)
It's a special kind of cry isn't it? Very hard to describe...
Truly
...and I cried just as hard this time. :)
He he he, My dad ended up in the delivery room when i had my second child, the baby arrived a little earlier than expected poor bloke looked shell shocked.
Im an only child and back in the 80s they wheeled mum to delivery and left dad in the waiting room 🤣
Hehe. Fortunatly I was present at both my daughters deliveries so I'm quite ready and won't be shell shocked.
This isn't a question but you must have been an amazing father.
If I ever have a child I will not let my Dad be in the waiting room. I wasn't the most abused person or anything, but he's bipolar and was mean.
Congratulations on being a good man and helping your daughter.
Nobody is perfect, but I've done my best, which is all anyone can do.
Why are you doing an AMA when you’re supposed to be there as support for your daughter?
Asking as a person who has given birth twice.
You must know how long it takes to give birth, then! I was in labor for 78 hours with my first and I’d be in prison if my mom and husband hovered for that whole time.
She is.mostly with her husband, I'm there as calming presence and geting things for them
does she have a name picked out?
They have a few picked out to choose from, but nothing decided.
Hospital isn't going to let multiple people be in the delivery room at the time of delivery. Kinda shitty that your daughter is requesting you and you have a problem with it
English isn't my first language, but I don't see how anything I wrote suggested I have a problem being here. I am very proud and happy to be my daughters extra support.
You didn’t. No one knows what that guy was talking about.
I think you misunderstood the post
I think you replied to the wrong person. I think OP understands their own post.
I’ve given birth twice, in two separate hospital systems. Both allowed 2 support people, with the first one 2+ the hospital provided doula. I ended up with c-sections both times so only had my husband in the OR, but for the first it was going to be husband, mom, and doula. Also where where tf are you getting papa is mad about being there?
They often do let multiple people in, and OP doesn’t have a problem with it
I didn't see anyplace where he said he has a problem with it.
What makes you think he has a problem with it??
Kinda shitty how?? There was nothing about him having a problem with it……
Where did it say he had a problem with it? Did you even read his post?
How did you raise your daughter?
Their mother and I separeted when she was a couple of months short from her fourth birthday, with sister 2 years younger. Spent the next 9 years having them with me every other weekend, until she started 7th grade and changed school to one closer to me, when upon she spent atleast 4 days a week with me, and sister doing rhe same two years later. Their mom and I have quite differing ideals and views on how to raise a Child.
Now my amazing kiddo, the epic spawn of d00m, is 25, and about to deliver my first grandchild. :)
Not a question just wanted to say how amazing of a dad to must be! My dad comes to all my super important doctors appointments. I nearly died a few years ago and he was the one in the ambulance with me and at the side of my hospital bed. I had very serious issues with my uterus that nearly killed me so it was a bit embarrassing for him to be on the gynecology ward as he's an incredibly shy man.
Yet he fought his shyness and stood by your side when it mattered. Hat's off for a good dad.
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It’s in the title, “my daughter wants me in the delivery room together with her husband”
No, her husband is here aswell. I do have a good relationship with her and she feel extra safe when I'm around
Did you read the post? Her husband and dad are gonna be there! 😂
Nothing to say, I dont know the situation, but blessings to you becoming a gramps🤞🏾
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That’s super awesome! A testament to how much she feels safe and comforted by your presence. I hope it all goes well and congratulations!
It says a lot about you as a dad that your daughter would ask you to be there in that moment. You are going to make a wonderful grandfather. Wishing you and your family all the best!!!
So many daughters are actually closer to their dad than their mum. Lovely to see a relationship like this. Congrats to your family.
Congratulations to everyone and welcome to the world, tiny human
Congratulations!💖
Congratulations on the little one! It sounds like you’ve been a very good dad.
No question. Just congratulations for being such an amazing father and man!
Congratulations, Grandpa
Congratulations to all.
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What makes it gross? You’re the weird one here
The level of intimacy. I deleted my post before you replied bc I understand that it was judgmental. But I guarantee 99% of humanity doesn’t want observation at this point. I’ve delivered more than a dozen and it’s hard to see it as a communal experience. Maybe in your culture everyone watches the babies come out. It’s not inherently gross, but this is unusual 💯
Being asked to be a support person doesn’t mean that everyone in the room is staring at your vagina for hours. My husband who was with me for actual days of labor never got down and stared deeply into my nethers. My mom helped me get situated for the epidural and saw my boobs, then helped me in the shower and paced with me while I was naked and laboring but never actually sat and stared at my vagina.
But I also don’t know circumstances and am sick, bored and over posting….it’s a scary time and I hope all goes well. And I stand by it not being usual, but it can be healthy and useful. Feel free to ignore me 😅
It"s likely not very common, but hey, pregnant Lady wants? Pregnant Lady gets. Thats the whole point of it.
He wasn’t really there to watch though, he was there for support
Congrats