Surgery is two weeks away! I just scheduled it today. I'm nervous. Super nervous, actually. But also so excited to live a life free of hemorrhoids!! I've had them for years and after two pregnancies, things were not pretty down there lol

  • That’s a long two weeks. Good luck

    What’s your favorite breakfast šŸ§‡

    I'm presently not in any pain from the hemorrhoids so for the next 2 weeks I'll just be soaking up every minute that I can walk normally and be up and moving. I know that post op I'll probably be bedridden for 7-10 days.Ā 

    My favorite breakfast is half of a Dave's killer bagel and a slice of whole grain toast with peanut butter and jelly on both. Then a cup of coffee with vanilla protein powder blended in 🤩

  • How bad are they that they impacted your life? I have one from pushing out a 9lb baby and it can definitely cause discomfort. I can’t fathom how multiple would feel!

    I have one internal one that comes out a little with every BM and I have to push it back in. And then I have an external one. I had them managed so well up until last year. Last year I had a painful flare that lasted a month. And then around winter time, I became so anxious about getting a stomach bug which could cause bad diarrhea which could make my hemorrhoids worse. The anxiety of that became so debilitating and I still struggle with it now. That's honestly what pushed me to consider getting them removed because the anxiety I have about what I eat as to avoid diarrhea, contracting any GI illnesses, etc has so severely impacted my life, that it'll be literally a breath of fresh air to have these things cut off.Ā 

    Oh, gosh, I’m so sorry. I’m glad you’re getting the surgery!

  • I've had the procedure done. Life-changing relief. I was nervous going in but SO happy I did it.

    Thank you for this hope! I am nervous but so excited to be free of this!

    Seriously, I cannot stress enough how much my life has changed for the better. I am less limited in so many ways. No more thrice-daily sitz baths!

    The doctor I saw when I had a fissure made it sound like 'roid removal wasn't an option even though I've struggled with them for like 20 years. What are the magic words I have to say to get a specialist to okay a surgery?

    This! This is what I need to know.

    This I don't know. I'm not a colorectal surgeon. But I'd highly recommend getting a second opinion.

  • oh wow. ok so i’m shy as hell. what was it like getting examined by the doctor? were you comfortable? was it weird at all? and what position are you in for the surgery? sorry if this is TMI — of course, don’t want to be rude.

    i also have post pregnancy ā€œissuesā€ and this is a great opportunity to do some research lol.

    So I saw my surgeon 2 days following an ER visit for said hemorrhoids. I was super nervous at the ER being examined. It was just a visual exam, nothing was put in me. When I saw the colorectal surgeon, I felt fine being examined (again, nothing was put in me) but I felt more confident given that he's a colorectal surgeon who sees butts all day. For both examinations, I was comfortable and it wasn't weird. I was laying on my left side with my knees tucked into my chest. For surgery I'm pretty sure I'm just going to be laying on my back.Ā 

    I have been reading story after sorry on here and YouTube of people who have had the surgery. And although 90% of the stories make it seem totally not worth it bc of the recovery, for me, it feels like the step I need to take to live my life again and not be bogged down by these damn hemorrhoids.Ā 

    thank you so much for sharing. this is so helpful and gives me courage and peace of mind. i’m gonna look into getting it done. would be amazing to have a ā€œnormalā€ bathroom experience again lol. šŸ˜šŸ™šŸ¾

    Absolutely! And 100%. I told my husband - the first BM I'll have following surgery I know will be painful but at least I won't have to push my hemorrhoid back in or worry about making sure my external hemorrhoid is clean! It's going to be amazingĀ 

    Oh, you should bidet up, too, ASAP

    In terms of comfort and cleanliness, your new self post-op more than deserves the upgrade

    I use one of those handheld portable bidets. Cheap but does the job!! I'll be buying a sitz bath for post op.Ā 

    Sorry but "buying a sitz bath" do you mean a bathtub? Cause if you already have on all you need is Epsom salt to add to it....

    I'm saying this as someone in a very similar position, had surgeons examining the same area recently only need more follow ups...

    I hope your surgery and recovery go far better than anyone believes and there is no recurrence of any issue.

    No a sitz bath is a basin that sits in the toilet. I do have a bathtub but I'm also buying a sitz bath when I don't feel like filling up the tub. Some people even try to have a BM in the sitz bath as it relieves some of the discomfort from it. I figured it might be useful to have just in case.Ā 

    Thank you learning something new

  • What’s the recovery look like for this procedure typically? How long have you had them?

    Recovery varies. I don't have my first follow up appointment until 4 weeks. My surgeon said "I don't see patients before 4 weeks because if I did, they'd come in and punch me". It's a painful recovery. On average, most people aren't completely 100% healed for 3-6 months.Ā I'm currently 31 and I've had hemorrhoids since I was 20, I think?Ā 

    I had the surgery many years ago. It took months to recover. The problem is that it doesn't have time to heal as that body part gets used every day, opening the wound each time.

    My advice is after the toilet paper is clean, use baby wipes to get really clean (don't flush them).

    Sadly my 'roids came back. However I discovered that it is not necessarily the 'roids in themselves that cause pain, it is when they interact with feces that the pain occurs. Even the tiniest spec of feces can cause that itchy pain. Using baby wipes to get squeaky clean is the solution. Sometimes, hours after a bowel movement, I feel the itch. A baby wipe finds the spec and I'm. fine.

    Now I have 'roids but do not suffer from pain at all.

    Better than wipes, install a "bum gun" saves on toilet paper and get you very clean. I would strongly recommend installing this for after surgery.

    https://www.amazon.com/dp/B086W1YZSH?ref_=ppx_hzsearch_conn_dt_b_fed_asin_title_1&th=1

    Good luck in your journey. Others had a quicker recovery than me. I hope you're in that category.

    Thank you! I have been using a bidet for years now because with my hemorrhoids, it is hard to get clean with just wiping. The bidet is a game changer.Ā 

    May I ask - why did your hemorrhoids come back? Do you strain or sit on the toilet long?

    I can't give you a definitive answer on that. I try not to sit too long but sometimes it's unavoidable.

    I have use a bidet and a bum gun. I found the latter better as there is more water pressure.

    Probably from wiping

    Promise…. You would not leave your surgeon with a face if you saw them before hand.

  • Where do you live? Is the procedure free or do you have to pay for it? And if so, how much?

    I'm in Pennsylvania. It is not free. My insurance covers 80% of outpatient surgeries so I'll have to pay about $4,000.Ā 

    It's incredible that in the United States you have to pay for something that should be the state's property. Where I live, in 6 months at most you get the operation for free. I hope the cost of the operation is not a problem for you anyway.Ā 

    I agree. I'm on my husbands healthcare plan and we pay a lot per month for our plan and yet we still have this huge bill for the surgery. Thankfully we are able to set up a 2 year payment plan so it isn't all at once.Ā 

    This is crazy! I'm in the UK so healthcare is free but the hospital I work for does private operations as well and a private haemorrhoidectomy is less than £3000 including all consultations before and after.

  • I had it done almost 3 months ago. 2 internal and 1 thrombus external plus a fistula all in one….. let me FN tell you. The first 5 weeks after is HELL I would rather have my 9 pound 14oz baba again. Pray to Jesus there are no words. The surgeon can kiss my new ass… However, once the recovery was nearly done I will say it’s worth it. Life is so much better, and to be honest once people are looking at your bootie all the time you feel sexy again. Baths will be your best friend. Take the colace 3x a day and miralax every day. That will make a world of difference. Have patients with yourself, this surgery sucks. (Mine was legit worst case scenario so maybe it won’t be so bad) You got this!!!!!!

    I'm so sorry it was so miserable for you. I'm definitely going into this preparing for excruciating pain, but hopefully it doesn't last 5 weeks 😭😭 was your fistulotomy simple? And was your hemorrhoidectomy with stitches or left open?

    They were done at the same time so I’m not sure which was worse. In total I had 10 stitches. The worst was the first BM after my surgery which was about 18ish hours and solid as a rock. I pray you have a good soothing and life changing recovery ā¤ļøā€šŸ©¹

  • Please update after wards bc I need this surgery too eventually but it seems so scary and painful I’ve been putting it off!!

    I plan to post updates in the hemorrhoid sub I'm in!Ā 

  • Was it difficult getting… idk ā€œapprovedā€ for this kind of procedure?

    Not in my experience. I had a truly awful hemorrhoid flare lasting from September to just a few weeks ago. I had a surgical consult in October, he wanted to see how things settled after 7 weeks. I just went back last week and he saw that my hemorrhoid flare healed wrong and caused a fistula, which needs surgery. So while I'm under, he's going to just remove my hemorrhoids.Ā 

  • We lived the same life! Just had the surgery the week of Thanksgiving.

    How has it been?? New year, new booty hole ✨

    I have tips from my experience if you want them.

    I would love some tips!!

    Mine were all external.

    Ugh I'm so sorry. It's definitely not an easy surgery to recover from, especially all being external. Have sitz baths been helpful for you?

    Just being honest- it’s pretty painful. Still not 100% yet. Follow up appt tomorrow.

  • I don’t know where I heard or read this , just getting the knots out is temporary solution. If you don’t manage it by life style changes ? It will come back.

    In that case did your doctor tell you about the life style changes you need to do if any ? Or is that even true ?

    The recurrence rate of them returning in that spot after beingĀ excised out is very low because he's removing the anal cushions where the hemorrhoid is. There are other anal cushions that could turn into new hemorrhoids if lifestyle changes don't happen. I have had an externalĀ hemorrhoid since my 20s but it was nothing and then following back to back pregnancies and pushing too long in labor, I developed the internal hemorrhoid. Since then, I've had no new hemorrhoids develop because I have changed my habits to avoid worsening my situation so I'm confident that I won't be dealing with any hemorrhoids in the future.Ā 

    What are the life style changes you did ?

    I cleaned up my diet. I lost a lot of weight. I drink 100 oz of water per day. I walk a lot. I do not sit on the toilet for longer than I need to. And I use a squatty potty.Ā 

  • Have they explained to you how the surgery is going to be performed? Especially for the internal one that you mentioned in another comment? How are they going to cut that one out and sow it back up? lol.

    Yes both hemorrhoids will be excised off and then stitched up. This is called a closed hemorrhoidectomy. Another technique is to leave the wounds open without stitches. I was relieved to hear that my surgeon doesn't do this.Ā 

    Yeah but the one that is inside your butthole....how will they get to that? A butthole speculum?

    Oh, yes basically.Ā 

    Interesting. I wish you the best of luck! I can't believe that there is an option to leave the wound open in your butt. That sounds crazy to me!!! I've had hemorrhoids before but they never affected me other than being there. I guess I got lucky.

    I know, it does seem weird to leave the wound open but the idea is to let your body heal on its own from the deep tissue outwards but it is anecdotally more painful than when stitches are used, and the recovery takes longer. But thanks! Yeah hemorrhoids are a funny thing how they can be terrors to some people but for others they're barely noticeable. Both of my sisters have external hemorrhoids but they're not bothered by them. I'm just the lucky one out of us 3 😜

  • Been a hemorrhoid peep since pregnancy #2. (7 years ago) Internal mostly but a particularly intense BM can pop one out on occasion. Considering one more child later which will likely worsen it. Is your insurance covering any of it? What’s that look like?

    My husband and I contemplated a 3rd baby but I don't think my butt would have survived another one lol. My insurance covers 80% so I'm left with having to pay $4,000

  • What is the recovery look like? I can't understand how people go to the bathroom and wipe their butt (after surgery) without injuring themselves. How does it ever truly heal?? And heal properly?

    Recovery is basically pain management for a few weeks while making sure to keep stool as soft as possible. Most people use a bidet or take a bath following a BM to get clean and then gently blot dry or use a fan to dry the area

    It can take up to 6 months to fully recover!

    How do you wipe though?? Or do you not? I'm assuming if you can't you shower maybe?? Sounds rough!

    You can shower after the first 24 hours. But every BM for up to 3 weeks is like knock the wind out of you/seeing stars. It hasn’t been easy at all BUT I’m so glad I did because I already feel like my quality of life is better.

    You do have to wipe. I use flushable wipes only. Toilet paper would be too rough. Sitz bath immediately after cleaning. It’s been a month for me and I’m still sitz bathing.

    Thanks! Feel better.

  • I heard these may come back post surgery?

    Not in the spot where the anal cushions are removed but hemorrhoids can form in the remaining anal cushions that aren't removed. Lifestyle change after surgery to prevent future hemorrhoids is necessaryĀ 

    Ohhh thank you for clarifying - I will have to do some research 🧐

    Good luck with your surgery, I hope everything goes well with your recovery! šŸ’

  • i’ve been dealing with painful hemrroids for 8 months now. tried everything to get relief. currently i have to use tucks pads and lidocaine cream multiple times a day every day. how long did you have them before deciding to do surgery?

    I've had them for about 10 years but they weren't painful or symptomatic that whole time. After my last pregnancy 5 years ago they got bad and that lasted for about a year. Then I managed them really well for 3.5 years and then I had a really bad flare that caused all sorts of problems, both physical and mental and it led to me really having no choice in the matter. Well, I guess I do have the choice but at this point it's just a no brainer that my life would be so much better without them.Ā 

  • I had this done 2 years ago. First week was pretty hard but doable. If it hurts just get in a hot bath and pain will drop dramatically. Make sure to keep with the pain meds that the doc prescribes. Week 2 was much better and I was able to work from home. I was back in the office start of week 3. While it did take several more weeks to get back to normal, it did not hurt too bad after that. I wish someone would have told me this…the first time you ā€œgoā€ after the surgery will be painful but take it easy and each time after gets better.

    Thank you. That's basically the timeline I am praying for šŸ™šŸ»

  • I had them after my pregnancy too, 3 months after my son was born I had the surgery to remove them (plus also to fix a complication from giving birth). I never knew those things could be so painful. Good luck on your surgery!!

    Thank you! Wow, I couldn't imagine doing this surgery postpartum. You're superwoman!

    I must admit I wasn't looking forward to it, I was so nervous and didn't want to leave my baby.

    Recovery wasn't too bad fortunately, couldn't lift my baby the first two days but after that it was all fine.

    That's great. I'm glad it went smoothly for you!

  • I got mine cut out last year… very happy I did it but be prepared for the worst pain of your life for a couple weeks after… you’re going to want to stock up on laxatives it is bruuuuutal (good luck!)

    Yes I have an Amazon list of all the things I need to buy before surgery day. Thanks!

  • Wow good for you I had 4 kids and my hemorrhoids are really bad. How are they going to do it?

    My surgeon will excise them out - not sure with what, could be scalpel, could be electrocautery - and then will stitch up the wound.Ā 

    Ok that sounds traumatic to me,but i wish you a speedy recovery

    Yeah it's definitely not going to be a pleasant experience lol but thank you!

  • Do you have a bidet? Best $40 I ever spent. Reduced hemorrhoids, and saves me a TON of money on TP.

    I don't have one that's fixed into the toilet. I have a portable handheld bidet! Cheap and does the job!Ā 

    I’ve never use a portable, but I love my permanently installed one. I hate going to the bathroom anywhere else!

    That's why my handheld one is nice, I can take it anywhere. It comes with a little travel bag so its discreetĀ 

  • Just commenting for solidarity. I had a golf ball sized thrombosed hemmy a few years ago. Got it sliced and popped out like a pimple in the ER. Good luck!!!

    Thrombosed hemorrhoids are the absolute worst.

  • Is it a full hemmoridectomy?

    I'm having an internal hemorrhoid removed and an external hemorrhoid removed as of now. Who knows what he will tell me he took out once he got in there and looked around.Ā 

    But is it rubber banding ? Laser? Or like full surgery?

    It is full surgery. I'll be under general anesthesia. No banding or laserĀ 

    Report back please, I should get this

  • I had hemorrhoids after my first painfully for about a year. It’s enough to make me not want a second child. I hope the surgery goes well!!!

    Ugh I hear you! Thanks!Ā 

  • Will you come back to report how things are downstairs a couple of months post op?

  • Best of luck šŸ”Ŗ

    My heart goes out to you.

  • How much sawdust could you add to a rice crispy treat before someone would notice?

    Probably a decent amount, Id thinkĀ 

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  • Get a bidet. Life saver!