(18m, struggling with ADHD, depression and anxiety. Medicated for adhd and depression)
I seriously am losing my patience with my friends. Every time I make a joke or ask a question the usually respond by making out I’m a idiot and that I’m stupid, and what makes me even more frustrated is someone would say or do that same thing as me, and everyone would think they are funny and great to hang out with, when I do the same it’s a fucken issue.
Ive been dealing with this stuff pretty much my whole life and it’s going to the point where I’m insecure to even talk and ask questions beucase I’m scared of being rejected. I feel so isolated and stuck, I sometimes even call them out for it but then I get shit for it.
I love my friends i really do, and they have been good people to me, but this part of them really makes me feel like shit.
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Tell them. Not in a "calling out" way; in an honest, vulnerable way. If you're real about how you're feeling, either they will empathize and be motivated to behave differently, or they aren't good friends and you should move on.
I’m 54, diagnosed at 50.
Looking back at your age, I just did shutup, it was better than feeling everything I said was dumb.
I know I’m not dumb though, just different, my only advice is now looking back, there will be those who get you and you can be yourself around without judgement, you just have to find them and more than likely they will be ADHD too.
get better friends
I feel this. This happened to me recently but on a lower scale. I know you probably hear this a lot, but just tell them. You don't have to do it in person; you don't have to make it a whole big speech. Just send each of them a text. IF you do do it, it's easier to do it separately so that they can't "copy" each other's feelings. Just tell them how you feel, and if they are true friends, they will try and make a change for you. If you feel like shit around them, and they don't change for you, they don't hold your opinion in the highest interest. Overall, communication is key, but you can just start small. Don't do anything that would put yourself in harm please. If you do need anything else, please reach out. (NOTE: I AM NOT A THERAPIST, PLEASE DON'T TAKE THIS AS "MEDICAL" OR "HELP"; this is just someone who understands slightly how it feels.)
If your friends are making you feel this way, you've basically got to either talk to them then reevaluate your friendship, or just straight up move on. That second part might be more of a "just me" thing, I have very literal tolerance for bullshit in my friend group.
It happened to me because I make jokes about myself and make fun of me. This invites other people to do the same. But after while they start to believe it's true and they see you as that.
I make those jokes to prevent people from thinking or saying that. Like, yes, I’m aware I’m an idiot you don’t need to tell me. Anyways if someone sees that as an opportunity to make fun of you then congratulations you have gotten your friend to show their true colors and now you can tell them to fuck off or ghost them.
Had a similar experience in my youth, just without the meds. My biggest struggle with personal interaction was context. I would mimic the behaviors of my friends, but at the wrong times. Ended up setting up a bunch of rules for myself to make sure I was inserting the right thing at the right time and make sure my addition to the conversation was topical. It gets easier over time.
That said, some people are just jerks and there is no helping it. Another posters said, try and work through it, and if it doesn't work, there are plenty of other folks out there to socalise with.
Those are not your friends. Get rid of them.
ADHD or not lot of teenagers do this hazing stuff to hide their insecurities. I’d say if that’s not your vibe, find people that are more to your vibe; maybe with a taste of maturity. But one day you will have to break out of your shell. I’m saying it doesn’t have to be now. Prioritize what’s important to you. Best of luck.
Try not to take it personally. They’d do the same thing to each other once you leave them.
17f here, diagnosed with ADHD and OCD. You should tell them how you feel. Don't be accusatory about it, but let them know. If they're friends worth keeping around, they'll listen and change their behaviour.
RSD is common in those with ADHD. CBT helps a lot and in greater cases DBT may be better suited to you. You’re only 18 man, if you think it’s bad now it’s only bound to get worse. See a therapist, and ask for CBT.
Your friends are shit. I hope you can meet kind people in the future and that their mean personalities don’t rub off on you.
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