I’m watching season 11 of 90 day fiancé and I’m on episode 14, and I just wanted to see others options on the scene with Gregory’s Mom and Joan when she’s getting her dress fitted.
Joan requests a ride to the dress store from Gregory’s Mom, Gregory’s Mom thinks she’s going to help Joan and go in with her at the dress shop. Joan says she rather just talk to her family on the phone during that, because it’s a meaningful time with her sister and mom. Gregory’s mom is then hurt and says “there’s always payback.”
What is everyone’s opinion on that interaction?
For me I think Gregory’s mom is valid for feeling a bit hurt but at the same time she assumed Joan would want her help from the ride (but she just doesn’t have a license and Gregory was at work.) She then proceeds to be pretty about it by saying that payback statement. Which I think is is immature, she’s such an old lady why is she getting that deeply hurt over something like that? Like Joan has let you help her planning the wedding but this one thing she wants to spend the moment with her family at home. I don’t know but I just think this a little extra coming from her. But I wanted to know what others were thinking? Was this a mean thing on Joan’s part? Or is Gregory’s Mom just missing the point?
Also this is my first watch through of the season
My late husband’s mom doesn’t have any girls. She got to participate in anything I would have wanted my own family to participate in.
Greg’s mom has been out of pocket a few times, and the comment about revenge was immature, but I don’t think she meant it.
Ya it just seemed like her style of dry humor
Agreed it’s a very Long Island cynical joke
She cracks me up.. whenever they were going out for the bachelorette party, and the limo came to pick them up, did you catch when she shoved her thumb out like she was hitching a ride to a disco in the 70s? LoL just love her :D
Yeah Gregory's mom definitely overreacted with that whole "payback" comment but honestly I get why she was hurt. Like she probably thought this was gonna be one of those sweet mother-in-law bonding moments and then got shut down pretty hard
Joan wasn't wrong for wanting her actual family there but maybe could've explained it better beforehand instead of just springing it on her at the store. The whole thing was just awkward all around lol
I can’t blame her for being disappointed… but I also can’t blame Joan for wanting to share that special moment with Judy her immediate family either.
You don’t ask your future mother-in-law for a ride and not expect her to come in. That’s common sense take an Uber. I felt bad for Lucille.
well I think maybe she doesn’t have money so that’s why she asked. Also Gregory just started working during this time so not too much money
I thought it was kind of rude for Joan to essentially use her for ride. If she needed a ride she could’ve just called an Uber. You could can tell Greg’s mom was hurt when Joan told her to leave instead helping her pick out a dress. However, it’s understandable that Joan wants it to just be her family but I think she could’ve handled the situation better.
I think Joan should have told her it was just a ride when she asked. If I was Gregory's Mom I also would have assumed she wanted me there for the fitting. However the payback comment is very petty and immature
It’s producer-led scripted drama. It’s all for the cameras. They are acting, and very badly at that.
yea sometimes I get confused on what’s real and what’s fake but I guess reality is all about the drama
It’s difficult to watch their interactions sometimes. I think they are both good people, but they get snagged up on cultural differences, as well as bumping into the question of who is “responsible” for Greg. The best solution would be for him to grow up, get a job, and get he and his girlfriend their own place. That would solve so many problems.
That will not happen He’ll be living with his mom forever.
I agree with you, and I think that is creating so much of the tension. If he would get them their own place, I think 90% of the problems would go away naturally.
He would have to work at least three jobs for a small place where he lives. It’s a nice area and not cheap. Plus she would have to go to work too. I think he’s extremely lazy. What he is thinking is a hell with his mom. She’ll do everything they’ll play house on her dime and then when she passes away. He gets the house.. I don’t even think he knows how expensive and what to do with a home especially in that area the taxes insurance I don’t think he’s got a clue
I think you’re exactly right. I think he has been a mama‘s boy for far too long.
I think Joan totally had the right to say no especially with her reasoning, but the way she expressed her reasoning I felt could’ve been a lot better. It was just mainly communication issues which Joan has had with Greg’s mom in general (ex. the dress, asking her to leave the house).
I was offended for her
I read this as Georgi's mom at first and I was so confused. I think it's time for glasses.
Joan has a snotty attitude.
Yes, I think Lucille has valid reason for feeling hurt..I know I would be. A lot of their problem is cultural, I don't want to say anymore since you just started.
She was rude and unwelcoming to her from the first moment she came into her home. She is not accountable for the fact that her son is immature and still living at home and not financially able to handle a fiance'/wedding/marriage or rent/mortgage. She did not support Joan when she expressed the need for more privacy and Gregory to be more mature about finances, finding a place, etc...
I'm sure Joan had conversations with Gregory about video calls with her family. He should have insisted that he drive her instead of Mom or discussed with her that culturally it would have been a wonderful gesture to include his Mom. And if she agreed he should have set both of them down and said "Mom-it's important to Joan that her family has time to talk/share their opinions without you overshadowing them by being there in person. If you do go in with her please be supportive and not so opinionated."
Or even better, he should have went tux shopping with her on the same day so she was able to support him and let Joan feel supported by her family.
I do think Joan came for love and I haven't heard much from them since their season ended but my guess is that once Joan sees the difference in Gregory and many guys his same age who are more mature, independent and have more appropriate relationships with Mom she might think twice.