Went out to a bar with some friends where most people will never see a tranny in their entire life -

lady behind the bar asks for my ID

Insist I just want a water

"Bar policy" I fucking guess

Hand her my ID - it's a couple years old. Has my moid face and old gender marker.

She frowns, and I'm prepping to get dressed down in front of my friends.

"This is a dudes ID, I can't take this."

Awkwardly try to explain that it's me

"No, this is a guy" she shows me my own ID, "is this your brother? Your boyfriend? Did you grab the wrong one?"

Desperate at this point as I try to explain without calling myself a tranny

She runs it through the fake ID checker then to her boss. Comes back and says sorry and is super polite to me.

Actually a really nice lady once the confusion is cleared up. Got my stupid water too.

I know I put myself in this situation by going to a bar like that, but fuuuuuuuuck I never wanted my head to just pop on the spot like that before. Not sure whether to call it ropefuel or hopefuel atp. I guess I don't look like myself anymore????

Thanks for reading my diary, have a nice day.

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  • many such cases with passoids

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    I'm just super tense because it's the kinda locale to stomp a tranny for being there and I realized a little too late that I put myself in a really bad position. 

    I'm not from the area, I'm just visiting. I'm from a queer city (tm) where people just shrugged when they saw my ID

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    Smell reaction image

    i know what you are

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    I'm sorry!!! I promise I'm not an attention whore, I just had a weird interaction!

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    i believed you until i checked your profile and saw your face. begone passoid

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  • Waaaaa moooggggg waaaa

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    Is this the part where I leave the sub??? I legit don't know my next digital move :(((

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    U can stay but no whining >:( !!!!!

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    Okayyyyyy - my nerves were just fried I promise I'm not trying to bitch n moan

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    I don't really know u that much tbh I just know that every 4tranner whines so ya :)

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  • Giwtwm

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    Gitiwgtgmakbmr - Girl, I thought I was gonna get my ass kicked by multiple rednecks 

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  • I have my ID from when I was 16 and dressed like a 50's housewife (21 now, ftm) that I use still because it doesn't expire for two more years somehow and ironically I usually get laughs after they squint and it and back at me for a bit. I'm not sure whether I'd prefer my experience or yours.

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  • passoid scum

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    Downvote me for this but being a "hecking passoid >:(" doesn't make forcedly getting outed at some random bar less nerve racking. 

    I'm glad it worked out, and I get passing smoothed the edges out in the end.  

    I get there's a privilege that exists around it but can you people fuck off??? I got stressed tf out too and I hate how I can't bitch about it because other subs will call me a tranny, the mainstream trans ones will call it a wholesome accidental ally or whatever, and apparently here I'm just some passoid. 

    Sorry you're the target for my ranting but whatever - let a bitch vent. 

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  • I almost got kicked out of a casino in Vegas with a similar story. Had 6 people check my ID because no one was sure. To add, I was doing my best boymoding and they were saying I looked like I was MAYBE 14 instead of 24

    I'm guessing one of them figured it out bc suddenly I was just fine and was handed my ID back That same trip I malefailed a lot at the hotel which was kinda nice

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  • I had this happen to me once. It was for a freakin Instacart delivery of cough syrup. I was in a hotel in the middle of nowhere (beautiful resort area but NO STORES) with my gf, my gf got sick (as always happens when you travel) I was like, dw boo, you're in Americaland now, we have actually good cough medicine here (unlike Europe), neither of us use Instacart but it seems to be the only thing available in this location, so I link one of my google accounts to get some discount offer--forgetting that that google account is under a fake name because I made it literally 20 years ago when gmail was still invite-only and before google owned YouTube and nobody put their real name on the internet. (It wasn't under my deadname either, I never used that unless actually forced to, it was literally just a made-up name, though it sounds like it could be an uncommon real name.) And then my gf put in her payment information, which is obviously a different name from either my google account name or my real name.

    So I go there to pick it up, looking like a young man probably, often guessed youthful even as a girl but as a boy I read even younger--not quite shotamoding but early 20s maybe. I hand him my ID, and he's like....out of state ID (not that weird for a hotel in a vacation spot tho c'mon), my pre-T picture is on it, says I'm like a 40-year-old female, not the name on the order. He's like, "...that's not your ID." I'm like no it totally is--if you want to wait here I can get my passport too! (Also a pre-T pic that says F, lmao.) He doesn't want to wait, so he's like whatever, I'll just let you have it...but that's not you. And I'm like...well thanks, but it actually is me. He points out that the name is different and I'm trying to tell him that the name is actually fake and something I made up 20 years ago, I didn't think about it displaying when I linked the google account or I would have used my newer one under my real name, and he's like "sure, sure, okay" (mashing X to doubt).

    I've actually been scared that one of these days this could happen in a more serious situation and I might not be believed about my own legal identity. I recently renewed my state ID with a more recent pic and got an X on it. Would sure be nice if I could do that for my passport too.

    It's never happened at home in my liberal bubble.

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    Why would you get an X in current political climate?

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    Because I always wanted it and I'm getting it while I still can. Already got BC changed, tried to get it on state ID last time I renewed but it wasn't available yet--this time it was. Wanted it on passport too and intended to get it fast right after Trump got elected before he took office, but had some health-related expenses and couldn't afford the fee. (Plus worries about international discrimination, difficulty booking flights with airlines that don't have X in their database, stuff like that. Maybe in a few more years....)

    In a way it's also just less stressful for me because my form of keeping my head down is "whichever you think I am, you're so right" so I don't want to have F if I'm read as M or M if I'm read as F, with X I can just be read as a theyfab or theymab--whichever they think my sex is.

    I guess I'm also trying to find some balance between staying quiet/going with the flow, and not being a complete repping coward.

    I doubt I'll be sent to ~the camps~ over it--though my BC change and my GD dx already leave me exposed to that if things go that way.

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  • Who tf is sharing this post and where??? Show yourselves 

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  • The fact there's a way to check that it's your real card really relieves me, I'm always so stressed out when I think about the day someone will call my ID fake

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  • Me reading this knowing i will never end up in a situation like this. Lol

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