There will be a price to pay for it. You will never convince me that injecting your face with neurotoxins and other foreign substances has no consequence on your health.......Smoking was promoted by doctors for decades. Wouldn't be surprised at all if they find it triggers autoimmune diseases. I'm a patient at Mayo Clinic for a T cell defect condition I have. They have told me under no circumstances am I to have any cosmetic work done. My GP there has seen some horror stories..... The documentary done in the next 15/20 years on this will be so captivating!
Yeah botox for instance is botulism toxin. They say in small doses it's not harmful but yeah it's not like we can trust the medical indu$try to always tell the truth.
it's so terrible. I felt like theoretically i could get behind it for medical reasons like migraines or tmj issues. Both i have a bit, but holey cow there is so much risk! Anecdotally, but there is a sims youtuber Deligracy and she got it done i think for some jaw issue and it left her face moving strangely. Maybe for me it'd be okay, but i can't imagine having to edit videos of my face (okay maybe in general) and not have it move like i expected it to be.
I’ve had Botox in my jaw for tmj and migraines (I had ground down a lot of my back molars so dentist actually suggested it) and I haven’t found it to interact with my autoimmune condition (which I’ve had for 10+ years).
That said I think there is risk and you should only go to an experienced doctor or RN. I would never get filler because the risk of migration and lack of evidence based research on it compared to Botox.
People with hyperhydrosis and cerebral palsy also benefit from Botox medically, but again it’s not something to take lightly or do too frequently imo.
One of the founders of modern Botox has said that it helps with your mood because the Botox goes into your brain. What!??! I’m in a botulism support group and it’s terrifying seeing people talk about losing their ability to swallow, chronic double vision and having to beg ER doctors to contact poison control for an antitoxin. That shit should not be legal except for people who need it medically and the antitoxin should be readily available after they are FULLY educated on the potential effects.
This fox eye trend will be for the 2020s what buccal fat removal was for 2010s and pencil thin brows were for the 2000s.
And what pisses me off more is how men in other subs will sit in their greasy underwear picking these women apart for the surgeries they've had, like men's constant criticism and scrutiny isn't the major contributing factor to many womens insecurity and steadily evolving BDD. Yes, social media. But it also gives men the opportunity for their nasty locker room talk on public platforms for all women and girls to see.
It is so incredible to realise how much freedom there is in not giving a flying fck about what men think about our appearance. Imagine if all young ladies realised they are the prize and men really must be worth nothing or else they wouldn't have been fought tooth and nail for centuries to keep us forced to stay in relationships to survive- how many less eating disorders, depression, bullying, s uicides, self harm there would be!
If patriarchy was a naturally superior and the natural order, it wouldn’t take so much violence to uphold it.
There’s a difference between “natural” and “normal.” Patriarchy is definitely the NORM. We are conditioned to cater to them. It’s not just physical violence, especially in the west. It’s psychological manipulation and guilt tripping. Creating a dependence. Intentionally lowering women’s self esteem. Manipulating them into giving consent. Encouraging and rewarding women’s insecurity, and their self-sabotaging behaviors. And then when you walk into the cage all on your own, they say “you wanted this. You walked in by your own choice.” Even if you had spent years being emotionally or mentally abused and invalidated.
This is well said. It reminds me of when they tell women "you chose him" when she "chooses" an abuser. First of all a lot of men are lazy/at least somewhat emotionally abusive so the chances are high and they all hide it at first. Second of all a lot of women have shitty examples at home and had their self esteem crushed from the get go so they genuinely may not even know better. We are all funneled like cattle to slaughter, but somehow, when the moment comes, it was somehow our choice. It's not his decision and responsibility, it's not society conditioning us from the second we are conscious, it's our choice only and therefore our fault.
Anytime someone says “It’s your choice” I guarantee you that person has literally no other option, plus there’s 99% probability the speaker is the one who forced them into this carefully constructed catch-22. I recently had a doctor choose to deny me care because I don’t have a local emergency contact (that’s the excuse she used anyway) but before I got out the door she managed to say “It’s your choice” at least five times when she literally gave me no other option. I even asked “Do you want me to lie? Make up fictional people so you can fill in the blank on your form?” I honestly don’t know what she was trying to bully me into but there was literally no way that incompetent b!tch was going to even try to provide care, yet she kept saying “It’s your choice” … like that’s never ever true. If it was they wouldn’t feel the need to gaslight about it 😠😡🤬🥵
It is such freedom to dress and adorn myself for myself and not for the male gaze. I wear comfy clothes that I find appealing that feel good and look good to me. I don’t even follow any fashion trends. I completely dress as I want and I love it
Okay right?? And then there's this old reddit thread, and if you don't want to click the link it's to a random reddit thread I don't blame you, but this one is called 'makeup really changes people' in which an adult man puts on a ton of makeup and a wig and looks like a highly made-up teenage-ish girl.
And then the comments under it are how WOMEN are so 'deceptive' and how online dating for men is nothing but disappointment and false advertising. I'm like wait, what?? Men did this! Men themselves said: this is what men find attractive, this is what men want, this is the face/image men will appreciate and not tear down and insult, this is the beauty standard.
That's why the video was funny, right? Because it started with an average looking dude and ended with what looks like a flirty young girl and the shock value and humor only comes when men admit they're attracted to what looks like a young girl with tons of makeup. Men are setting this beauty standard, and obediently, women want men to think they're beautiful and try to fit that beauty standard, and then men hate them for it. None of the men commenting on that video hated the guy putting on makeup - they were criticizing an imaginary woman who believed them when they said 'this is what I find attractive' and wanted to please them so did their best to conform to that standard. The women who tried are the evil deceptive disappointments, the women who didn't try are the fat/ugly/old unwanted cat ladies.
Buccal fat removal is really popular right now though. Unfortunately that's why Jenny Ortega now has such a hollowed out face. She was beautiful before, her face was also thin and small. I just don't get it. She's still pretty, but now she just looks so severe.
Everyone seems to want a super angular face now. It makes me very sad. Some of the most conventionally attractive women are changing their faces for no good reason. Like why do they think they need to improve? It's got to be the external pressure of Hollywood. But I'm afraid just like the non-famous, these women have internalized criticism that originally came from others.
I'm in my early 30s and just got my passport renewed and the photo made me SO glad I never fucked with my face. Early 20's me had chubby cheeks and no upper lip and an unflattering hairstyle. 30s me looks so different, in a good way. It LOOKS like I had subtle work done, but all I did was lose some baby fat, learn some makeup tips, and get a better haircut. I can't imagine getting something like buccal fat removal in my 20s, I'd look completely gaunt now.
You get to a certain age and you stop giving a flying fuck about anything
Some woman freaked out about my hairy legs yesterday and I poked my tongue out at her
I don’t care what people think of me anymore
And I love my hair MORE now that it's silver, it's ethereal, honestly girls and NBs, I think I'm better looking that I ever was in my 20s least of all because I'm sober and not doing heaps of drugs
Get off social media. Stop making stupid people famous. Withhold your attention (aka money).
It's reason #3,209,101 being involved with men these days is a losing game. This is what you're competing with. It's also reason #291,974,197 that social media is toxic for your mental health. You are internalizing these beauty "standards".
As I get older, I find my face so gorgeous. The laugh lines, the blemishes, the crows feet etc. It looks so natural. I also dont get people who wear so much foundation and makeup that you cant see their real skin. It sucks because women look much much better without all that crap.
I definitely believe in the right for you to do whatever, but I mean why start when you are in your 20s and 30s. Jeez. So not needed.
I could have made this video myself, given the number of conversations I’ve had on the topic!
My personal paradigm: TO AGE IS A PRIVILEGE.
I have earned every wrinkle, every mole, every scar—and I refuse to let the dictates of patriarchal beauty standards affect how I view and treat my body. At the heart of all these new-age body modifications is the very old (that is, historical and over-worked) idea that women, in particular, are not enough and cannot do enough to make themselves acceptable.
For me, 4B also means not buying into the lies that lead many women to forget that we are allowed to age and still see ourselves as beautiful.
Yes. Several years ago I heard someone who must be prominent in the Manosphere, not sure who it was, speaking of women with certain kinds of plastic surgery referred to as having “pleasure bodies” 😣. He was positioning these women as I guess whore-ish, cheap, or undesirable even though their bodies were surgically made to exceed the beauty standard of the time.
The term “pleasure bodies” itself points to a need to create a whole new nested category of women to disparage. Of course the irony here is that even with a so-called body enhanced for male pleasure we are still doing something wrong in the eyes of misogynists. 😂🤣
Their need to hate, denigrate and devalue us is stronger even than their desire for a hyper-feminine body that was surgically sculpted to hack their brains’ pleasure centres.
one thing i absolutely adore about the earlier seasons of yellowjackets is how all of the women look different and real and how their faces are unapologetically put on display..
Started watching a new streamer recently, and for the first hour I watched I just couldn't figure her out. She seemed so emotionally controlled, so perfectly placid, like every one of her facial expressions was consciously considered and modulated. I had never seen a person with her very measured mannerisms before.
At first, I thought she much just be very self conscious, to constantly monitor her face like that. But then I realized - it's botox. Her face was half paralyzed!
Now that I've been watching her for a couple weeks I don't even notice any more. But for the first couple days, especially in the first hour, I felt genuinely uneasy because of the way her face was (not) moving. Because I couldn't nail down what was different - she looks good! - but I knew something was off.
There is something really sad to me about the fact that this mid twenties girl got toxins injected into her face, in the hopes that it's more pleasing to others - and ended up invoking the uncanny valley, as she lost half the ability to visually convey her own feelings.
Please anyone remind me if i’m too woke, but seeing these faces looking pretty much the same, like the video says it has white supremacist undertones, and for me it’s not just undertones, it’s blatantly racist
People are so quick to dismiss the fact that 2025 beauty standards are so eurocentric, the small tall nose, smaller lips, slim everything. Like yes I’m sure that there are many non-white people who have that feature but.. let’s be honest here
The kardashians are becoming thinner, they dissolved their lip fillers, etc. It’s a sign
Contrary to ice spice like she got on ozempic and still people call her down syndrome, FAS, etc to me it’s clear that they’re racist
And don’t even get me started on sydney sweeney
I mean seriously I’ve never felt so horrible about my body image in a long time as much as this year. This is all js so fucked up
People are so quick to dismiss the fact that 2025 beauty standards are so eurocentric,
I mean seriously I’ve never felt so horrible about my body image in a long time as much as this year.
Here's a thought that could help you a little bit. Do you realise we're talking about "beauty trends" like we talk about f ing clothes? DOES ANYONE OUT HERE MAGICALLY GETS A NEW FACE AND BODY EACH YEAR OR...?
I understand what you're talking about, the political and cultural indicators, the influence over next generations...but what if the less we cared, the less influence all of this shit will have?
Big butts and lips were all the rage just a few years ago. Do you think everyone who found these features attractive had their brain magically receive an update and stop liking them?
Unless you are a model or actress whose career depends on popularity and appearance, your adherence to current beauty standards should have exactly zero importance. Even if you were trying to attract a man, which I hope not(!), it's universally known their preferences are (rightfully and in insight obviously) all over the place.
We put so much importance in stupid shit like this, because it's created to make us insecure and not valuing ourselves as WHOLE PERSONS instead of just a trendy accessory to sell consumerist shit or a sexy doll for men.
Sometimes its not even that i want to get mens attention necessarily, i want everyone’s attention because I often feel very detached from other women yk :/ like I’m inferior than them or they have something that I don’t have
I am sure you're good enough :)
You can work on yourself to find out what makes you think that; usually when one thinks like that, they're only inferior to some ideal in their head, or they have a strong interior judgement that keeps telling them they're less than what they should be... it's a deep rabbit hole to fall into, I have similar problems and it's not easy at all.
But I can assure you, many (or at least some!) of the women you think are better than you or simply have it all figured out and well put together, have their own insecurities inside, you just can't see that.
Maybe someone is out there thinking you have some great quality, and you still won't know that... it's useless to compare yourself to others since there is no "universal value scale for humans", nor we'll ever be able to know what everyone else really thinks and feels (sometimes we don't even know that about ourselves!)
It's easy to think everything would be better if we were gorgeous super models, but it's not necessarily true, and it's not necessarily what is really lacking in your life.
In short...the only person you really are trying to impress, is yourself.
Try to find out what you really feel bad about, and if it's a reasonable thing you can change (like an accomplishment you can work on, or even just present yourself with a style that makes you feel better about yourself aesthetically) or if you're just suffering from internalised racism and beating yourself for some imaginary standard that is useless and imposed on us.
There will be a price to pay for it. You will never convince me that injecting your face with neurotoxins and other foreign substances has no consequence on your health.......Smoking was promoted by doctors for decades. Wouldn't be surprised at all if they find it triggers autoimmune diseases. I'm a patient at Mayo Clinic for a T cell defect condition I have. They have told me under no circumstances am I to have any cosmetic work done. My GP there has seen some horror stories..... The documentary done in the next 15/20 years on this will be so captivating!
Yeah botox for instance is botulism toxin. They say in small doses it's not harmful but yeah it's not like we can trust the medical indu$try to always tell the truth.
it's so terrible. I felt like theoretically i could get behind it for medical reasons like migraines or tmj issues. Both i have a bit, but holey cow there is so much risk! Anecdotally, but there is a sims youtuber Deligracy and she got it done i think for some jaw issue and it left her face moving strangely. Maybe for me it'd be okay, but i can't imagine having to edit videos of my face (okay maybe in general) and not have it move like i expected it to be.
I’ve had Botox in my jaw for tmj and migraines (I had ground down a lot of my back molars so dentist actually suggested it) and I haven’t found it to interact with my autoimmune condition (which I’ve had for 10+ years).
That said I think there is risk and you should only go to an experienced doctor or RN. I would never get filler because the risk of migration and lack of evidence based research on it compared to Botox.
People with hyperhydrosis and cerebral palsy also benefit from Botox medically, but again it’s not something to take lightly or do too frequently imo.
One of the founders of modern Botox has said that it helps with your mood because the Botox goes into your brain. What!??! I’m in a botulism support group and it’s terrifying seeing people talk about losing their ability to swallow, chronic double vision and having to beg ER doctors to contact poison control for an antitoxin. That shit should not be legal except for people who need it medically and the antitoxin should be readily available after they are FULLY educated on the potential effects.
fr they don't care about women's health at it is
This fox eye trend will be for the 2020s what buccal fat removal was for 2010s and pencil thin brows were for the 2000s.
And what pisses me off more is how men in other subs will sit in their greasy underwear picking these women apart for the surgeries they've had, like men's constant criticism and scrutiny isn't the major contributing factor to many womens insecurity and steadily evolving BDD. Yes, social media. But it also gives men the opportunity for their nasty locker room talk on public platforms for all women and girls to see.
It is so incredible to realise how much freedom there is in not giving a flying fck about what men think about our appearance. Imagine if all young ladies realised they are the prize and men really must be worth nothing or else they wouldn't have been fought tooth and nail for centuries to keep us forced to stay in relationships to survive- how many less eating disorders, depression, bullying, s uicides, self harm there would be!
If patriarchy was a naturally superior and the natural order, it wouldn’t take so much violence to uphold it.
There’s a difference between “natural” and “normal.” Patriarchy is definitely the NORM. We are conditioned to cater to them. It’s not just physical violence, especially in the west. It’s psychological manipulation and guilt tripping. Creating a dependence. Intentionally lowering women’s self esteem. Manipulating them into giving consent. Encouraging and rewarding women’s insecurity, and their self-sabotaging behaviors. And then when you walk into the cage all on your own, they say “you wanted this. You walked in by your own choice.” Even if you had spent years being emotionally or mentally abused and invalidated.
This is well said. It reminds me of when they tell women "you chose him" when she "chooses" an abuser. First of all a lot of men are lazy/at least somewhat emotionally abusive so the chances are high and they all hide it at first. Second of all a lot of women have shitty examples at home and had their self esteem crushed from the get go so they genuinely may not even know better. We are all funneled like cattle to slaughter, but somehow, when the moment comes, it was somehow our choice. It's not his decision and responsibility, it's not society conditioning us from the second we are conscious, it's our choice only and therefore our fault.
Anytime someone says “It’s your choice” I guarantee you that person has literally no other option, plus there’s 99% probability the speaker is the one who forced them into this carefully constructed catch-22. I recently had a doctor choose to deny me care because I don’t have a local emergency contact (that’s the excuse she used anyway) but before I got out the door she managed to say “It’s your choice” at least five times when she literally gave me no other option. I even asked “Do you want me to lie? Make up fictional people so you can fill in the blank on your form?” I honestly don’t know what she was trying to bully me into but there was literally no way that incompetent b!tch was going to even try to provide care, yet she kept saying “It’s your choice” … like that’s never ever true. If it was they wouldn’t feel the need to gaslight about it 😠😡🤬🥵
I saved your comment. Well said.
It is such freedom to dress and adorn myself for myself and not for the male gaze. I wear comfy clothes that I find appealing that feel good and look good to me. I don’t even follow any fashion trends. I completely dress as I want and I love it
Okay right?? And then there's this old reddit thread, and if you don't want to click the link it's to a random reddit thread I don't blame you, but this one is called 'makeup really changes people' in which an adult man puts on a ton of makeup and a wig and looks like a highly made-up teenage-ish girl.
And then the comments under it are how WOMEN are so 'deceptive' and how online dating for men is nothing but disappointment and false advertising. I'm like wait, what?? Men did this! Men themselves said: this is what men find attractive, this is what men want, this is the face/image men will appreciate and not tear down and insult, this is the beauty standard.
That's why the video was funny, right? Because it started with an average looking dude and ended with what looks like a flirty young girl and the shock value and humor only comes when men admit they're attracted to what looks like a young girl with tons of makeup. Men are setting this beauty standard, and obediently, women want men to think they're beautiful and try to fit that beauty standard, and then men hate them for it. None of the men commenting on that video hated the guy putting on makeup - they were criticizing an imaginary woman who believed them when they said 'this is what I find attractive' and wanted to please them so did their best to conform to that standard. The women who tried are the evil deceptive disappointments, the women who didn't try are the fat/ugly/old unwanted cat ladies.
Buccal fat removal is really popular right now though. Unfortunately that's why Jenny Ortega now has such a hollowed out face. She was beautiful before, her face was also thin and small. I just don't get it. She's still pretty, but now she just looks so severe.
Everyone seems to want a super angular face now. It makes me very sad. Some of the most conventionally attractive women are changing their faces for no good reason. Like why do they think they need to improve? It's got to be the external pressure of Hollywood. But I'm afraid just like the non-famous, these women have internalized criticism that originally came from others.
I am in my 50s and I quite like the way I'm aging
I'd be too scared to fuck with my face, especially when you see US faces, what's it's called, Mar El Lago, or whatever
I'm happy to age naturally and have excellent facials occasionally
I'm in my early 30s and just got my passport renewed and the photo made me SO glad I never fucked with my face. Early 20's me had chubby cheeks and no upper lip and an unflattering hairstyle. 30s me looks so different, in a good way. It LOOKS like I had subtle work done, but all I did was lose some baby fat, learn some makeup tips, and get a better haircut. I can't imagine getting something like buccal fat removal in my 20s, I'd look completely gaunt now.
I tell people all the time that i grew into my forehead in my 30s.
You get to a certain age and you stop giving a flying fuck about anything
Some woman freaked out about my hairy legs yesterday and I poked my tongue out at her
I don’t care what people think of me anymore
And I love my hair MORE now that it's silver, it's ethereal, honestly girls and NBs, I think I'm better looking that I ever was in my 20s least of all because I'm sober and not doing heaps of drugs
And I bet you're 100% a beautiful woman!
I like my looks more and more every year to be honest which tells me it has more to do with confidence and attitude than what anyone else thinks
Thank you x
Get off social media. Stop making stupid people famous. Withhold your attention (aka money).
It's reason #3,209,101 being involved with men these days is a losing game. This is what you're competing with. It's also reason #291,974,197 that social media is toxic for your mental health. You are internalizing these beauty "standards".
Opt out.
Now everyone looks Chat GPT generated
“Undertones of white supremacy” yup…
As I get older, I find my face so gorgeous. The laugh lines, the blemishes, the crows feet etc. It looks so natural. I also dont get people who wear so much foundation and makeup that you cant see their real skin. It sucks because women look much much better without all that crap.
I definitely believe in the right for you to do whatever, but I mean why start when you are in your 20s and 30s. Jeez. So not needed.
I could have made this video myself, given the number of conversations I’ve had on the topic!
My personal paradigm: TO AGE IS A PRIVILEGE.
I have earned every wrinkle, every mole, every scar—and I refuse to let the dictates of patriarchal beauty standards affect how I view and treat my body. At the heart of all these new-age body modifications is the very old (that is, historical and over-worked) idea that women, in particular, are not enough and cannot do enough to make themselves acceptable.
For me, 4B also means not buying into the lies that lead many women to forget that we are allowed to age and still see ourselves as beautiful.
ETA: Thank you for the award, kind stranger!!! ☺️
Actresses don't even look like supermodels now... they look like sex dolls from the same factory. It's genuinely unnerving.
Yes. Several years ago I heard someone who must be prominent in the Manosphere, not sure who it was, speaking of women with certain kinds of plastic surgery referred to as having “pleasure bodies” 😣. He was positioning these women as I guess whore-ish, cheap, or undesirable even though their bodies were surgically made to exceed the beauty standard of the time.
The term “pleasure bodies” itself points to a need to create a whole new nested category of women to disparage. Of course the irony here is that even with a so-called body enhanced for male pleasure we are still doing something wrong in the eyes of misogynists. 😂🤣
Their need to hate, denigrate and devalue us is stronger even than their desire for a hyper-feminine body that was surgically sculpted to hack their brains’ pleasure centres.
one thing i absolutely adore about the earlier seasons of yellowjackets is how all of the women look different and real and how their faces are unapologetically put on display..
Started watching a new streamer recently, and for the first hour I watched I just couldn't figure her out. She seemed so emotionally controlled, so perfectly placid, like every one of her facial expressions was consciously considered and modulated. I had never seen a person with her very measured mannerisms before.
At first, I thought she much just be very self conscious, to constantly monitor her face like that. But then I realized - it's botox. Her face was half paralyzed!
Now that I've been watching her for a couple weeks I don't even notice any more. But for the first couple days, especially in the first hour, I felt genuinely uneasy because of the way her face was (not) moving. Because I couldn't nail down what was different - she looks good! - but I knew something was off.
There is something really sad to me about the fact that this mid twenties girl got toxins injected into her face, in the hopes that it's more pleasing to others - and ended up invoking the uncanny valley, as she lost half the ability to visually convey her own feelings.
I think it’s a status symbol. Us poors can’t afford to get surgery every time we get insecure. 🤷🏻♀️
Please anyone remind me if i’m too woke, but seeing these faces looking pretty much the same, like the video says it has white supremacist undertones, and for me it’s not just undertones, it’s blatantly racist
People are so quick to dismiss the fact that 2025 beauty standards are so eurocentric, the small tall nose, smaller lips, slim everything. Like yes I’m sure that there are many non-white people who have that feature but.. let’s be honest here
The kardashians are becoming thinner, they dissolved their lip fillers, etc. It’s a sign
Contrary to ice spice like she got on ozempic and still people call her down syndrome, FAS, etc to me it’s clear that they’re racist
And don’t even get me started on sydney sweeney
I mean seriously I’ve never felt so horrible about my body image in a long time as much as this year. This is all js so fucked up
Here's a thought that could help you a little bit. Do you realise we're talking about "beauty trends" like we talk about f ing clothes? DOES ANYONE OUT HERE MAGICALLY GETS A NEW FACE AND BODY EACH YEAR OR...?
I understand what you're talking about, the political and cultural indicators, the influence over next generations...but what if the less we cared, the less influence all of this shit will have?
Big butts and lips were all the rage just a few years ago. Do you think everyone who found these features attractive had their brain magically receive an update and stop liking them?
Unless you are a model or actress whose career depends on popularity and appearance, your adherence to current beauty standards should have exactly zero importance. Even if you were trying to attract a man, which I hope not(!), it's universally known their preferences are (rightfully and in insight obviously) all over the place.
We put so much importance in stupid shit like this, because it's created to make us insecure and not valuing ourselves as WHOLE PERSONS instead of just a trendy accessory to sell consumerist shit or a sexy doll for men.
I’m aware of this, and I’m aware of how stupid it is
Yes being aware doesn't always mean escaping from the bad influence. I hope you'll soon not only know but feel how beautiful and valuable you are.
Sometimes its not even that i want to get mens attention necessarily, i want everyone’s attention because I often feel very detached from other women yk :/ like I’m inferior than them or they have something that I don’t have
I am sure you're good enough :) You can work on yourself to find out what makes you think that; usually when one thinks like that, they're only inferior to some ideal in their head, or they have a strong interior judgement that keeps telling them they're less than what they should be... it's a deep rabbit hole to fall into, I have similar problems and it's not easy at all.
But I can assure you, many (or at least some!) of the women you think are better than you or simply have it all figured out and well put together, have their own insecurities inside, you just can't see that. Maybe someone is out there thinking you have some great quality, and you still won't know that... it's useless to compare yourself to others since there is no "universal value scale for humans", nor we'll ever be able to know what everyone else really thinks and feels (sometimes we don't even know that about ourselves!) It's easy to think everything would be better if we were gorgeous super models, but it's not necessarily true, and it's not necessarily what is really lacking in your life.
In short...the only person you really are trying to impress, is yourself. Try to find out what you really feel bad about, and if it's a reasonable thing you can change (like an accomplishment you can work on, or even just present yourself with a style that makes you feel better about yourself aesthetically) or if you're just suffering from internalised racism and beating yourself for some imaginary standard that is useless and imposed on us.
I can’t imagine the horror of never knowing how you would have aged naturally.